Author : Gary Chapman
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A week back, one of my friends asked me
“ Should I go back to the first guy I spoke to? I don’t feel that way with anyone else?”
I said, “ No. You should just work it out with whoever you are speaking to now.”
She felt offended. “ Why do you look at arranged marriages lower to love marriages?”
I told her that in love marriages you are blinded with love initially, in arranged marriages you choose to love after marriage. A guy you meet in arranged marriage setup can make you feel the same if he chooses to make you feel that. You might never again feel after marriage the ‘in-love’ experience you are talking about.
She never replied to me. We have not spoken in the past ten days again.
Why does it take so much effort for a person to accept that love is a conscious choice you make?
 
This book answered that question of mine.
Even though this book has been written extensively for couples, it is not just for them. For any happy relation, you should be able to provide what they need and not what you can give.
If your baby is hungry and you give a toy, will it make the baby stop crying?
That is the concept which the author explained in the book.
 
It is a really short book. I finished it in one night. Even though it talks about the concept which we already know, he put a structure to it, which makes the concept clearer. He calls the way you can feel someone loved is like a language. If you don’t speak that language, you need to learn it. Knowing the language alone is not sufficient, you have to speak in the dialect too.
 
After each chapter, he gives you practical exercises which will help you take action on learning the language. At the end of the book, he has given a test to identify primary love language if you are not clear after reading the book.
 
I now know how to make my parents, sibling and friends feel loved. All I have to do is what they need and not what I can do the best to make them loved. Previously, I used to think that one form of expressing love was superior than others. But now I understand that one form is not superior than the other. It is about which one is important for the person you want to make feel loved.
 
Once when all my friends met, the host’s sister said “ Every weekend you complain that you have no one to go out with. Now when your friends are here, you just want to stay at home.”
 
My host friend said, “ All I want to do is spend time with them by playing indoor games and make wonderful memories.”
 
Her love language is quality time. What is yours?
 
Read the book and identify yours and that of important people in your life.
 
Happy loving!

Author: James Allen
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It is one of the shortest books I ever read. It is second in the series of books I read on affirmations. When I read online reviews of Secret, everyone bashed the book saying it is all crap and too good to believe.
If the same message of secret has to be read in a compact, concise and classic style of writing, this is the book.
Did I learn something new from the book?
No.
But I thoroughly enjoyed the writing style of the author. It looked like every sentence written in the book was harsh truth. It is one of the well written books I ever read. The words are so concise and to the point. The writing style is so difficult to emulate.One needs to really learned and a great writer to write it in a precise to the point way. The words he used go directly touch your conscience and question your thoughts.
Next time when you have evil or negative thoughts, his words come into your mind. They remind you that you are the creator of your destiny. Do you really want your life to unfold in this path?
If there is one word to summarize the book, it is self-control.
 

Quotes

MAN’S mind may be likened to a garden, which may be intelligently cultivated or allowed to run wild; but whether cultivated or neglected, it must, and will, bring forth.

Thought and character are one, and as character can only manifest and discover itself through environment and circumstance, the outer conditions of a person’s life will always be found to be harmoniously related to his inner state

That circumstances grow out of thought every man knows who has for any length of time practised self-control and self-purification, for he will have noticed that the alteration in his circumstances has been in exact ratio with his altered mental condition.

The soul attracts that which it secretly harbours; that which it loves, and also that which it fears; it reaches the height of its cherished aspirations; it falls to the level of its unchastened desires,–and circumstances are the means by which the soul receives its own.

Circumstance does not make the man; it reveals him to himself

Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are.

What, then, is the meaning of “fighting against circumstances?” It means that a man is continually revolting against an effect without, while all the time he is nourishing and preserving its cause in his heart. That cause may take the form of a conscious vice or an unconscious weakness; but whatever it is, it stubbornly retards the efforts of its possessor, and thus calls aloud for remedy.

Men are anxious to improve their circumstances, but are unwilling to improve themselves; they therefore remain bound

In the light of a deeper knowledge and wider experience such judgment is found to be erroneous. The dishonest man may have some admirable virtues, which the other does, not possess; and the honest man obnoxious vices which are absent in the other.

Good thoughts and actions can never produce bad results; bad thoughts and actions can never produce good results.

The circumstances, which a man encounters with suffering, are the result of his own mental in harmony.

Blessedness, not material possessions, is the measure of right thought; wretchedness, not lack of material possessions, is the measure of wrong thought. A man may be cursed and rich; he may be blessed and poor. Blessedness and riches are only joined together when the riches are rightly and wisely used; and the poor man only descends into wretchedness when he regards his lot as a burden unjustly imposed.

 
A man is not rightly conditioned until he is a happy, healthy, and prosperous being; and happiness, health, and prosperity are the result of a harmonious adjustment of the inner with the outer, of the man with his surroundings.

Men imagine that thought can be kept secret, but it cannot; it rapidly crystallizes into habit, and habit solidifies into circumstance

Impure thoughts of every kind crystallize into enervating and confusing habits, which solidify into distracting and adverse circumstances: thoughts of fear, doubt, and indecision crystallize into weak, unmanly, and irresolute habits, which solidify into circumstances of failure, indigence, and slavish dependence: lazy thoughts crystallize into habits of uncleanliness and dishonesty

The people who live in fear of disease are the people who get it.

 
Happy thinking in the right way!
 
 
 
 
 

Author: Rhonda Byrne
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The past two months had been crazy for me. I had been trying out various ways to reduce the stress. Then I decided that the best way is to start dealing with my thoughts. I am aware of the power of sending messages to sub-conscious mind. I use that power to wake up in the morning. I want to make use of the same power to bring positivity into my life and get rid of stress forever.
The affirmations I was doing were not helping me in any way. My angel friend asked me to read ‘The Secret’ to learn about the right way to do affirmations.
I started off the book with high hopes that it will change my life drastically. But all the author asks is to think positive. I have previously attracted a lot of things which I deeply wished for. I can only comment on the authenticity of the book after I attract them again now. To stay positive, I kept a reminder in my phone for Morning, afternoon, evening and night. I close my eyes, smile broadly and repeat these affirmations. Whenever I feel negative, I force a smile on my face and try to look at the positive side of the situation. I had been writing my gratitude journal for more number of times than I used to previously.
 

Summary

• The dreams you have for your life exist in a parallel world. By emitting a signal of the frequency of your dream, you bring that into reality
• When you have good thoughts you feel positive emotions like joy, excitement. The more you feel this way, the more positivity you attract into life
• Process
  • Step 1: The ask
    • From the catalogue of Universe wish for what you want
  • Step 2: The believe
    • Have faith that what you asked for is already yours
  • Step 3: The receive
    • Feel what it is like. To receive your order, all you have to do is feel good

The doubts of mine which the book answered

 
Will I ruin my life if I think negatively?
The power of a good thought is 100 times the power of a negative thought
 
What if I wish for what is not right for me?
There is a time delay between what you wish for and what you get
 
How do I know if I am thinking good thoughts?
Emotions are a result of our thoughts. In case you are not sure what you are thinking, ask yourself how you are feeling. That answers the question about the depth of your thoughts.
 
What do I do when I am spiralling down the negativity pillar?
Trigger the warning button and command it to change frequency
 
How to start with the positive thoughts?
Close your eyes. Focus on the feelings inside and smile.
 
How long will it take?
It takes the time for you to align your thoughts and be sure to reach the frequency of your dream
 
Will it take longer time to attract bigger things?
When you are considering something as big, you are not believing that you can get it. In that case, you can start small and slowly increase it.
 
Is there enough for all I ask for?
You can’t attract all you want if you have scarcity mentality. There is enough for everyone in the Universe.
 
How to deal with doubts?
Send that thought away. Tell yourself that you know that you are receiving the order
 
What to do about the events which did not go the way you want?
Replay them in the way you wish they could have happened
 
 

Best Practices

• Let the first and last thought of the day be good ones
• Practise meditation to gain control over your thoughts
• Make a list of secret shifters which can change your mood immediately
• Create your day in advance. Imagine what you want your day to look like
• Practise gratitude. If you are not happy with what you already have, you will not get into the frequency of receiving bigger things in life
• Visual motor rehearsal -By visualizing what you want, you are practising it in real
• Cultivate abundant mentality
• Make affirmations a daily practise

Mistakes to avoid

• Don’t contradict your own thoughts
• Don’t wish bad for others. Those thoughts will attract negativity into your life

Quotes

 
“Whatever you sow, you reap! Your thoughts are seeds, and the harvest you reap will depend on the seeds you plant.”
“You create your own universe as you go along.”
 

Summary in a sentence

Be happy. Think positive. You manifest all you wish.
 

Do I believe in the secret?

I believe that I am more creative and productive when I am happy. The happier I am, the better progress I make. The more progress I make, the closer I am to the reality of my dreams.
Happy attracting your dreams!