Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy People

Author: Thomas C Corley

Review


The author did not mention anything new which you would not have read in any other articles or books on self-help previously. He just tried to make the book interesting by writing case studies of an insurance salesman, a secretary, a car dealer and an accountant. He mentioned 10 habits of the rich, but he has not gone into details of how to make the habits work for you. Also, some of the habits are overlapping. If you are already aware of habit formation and the basics required to be successful in life, this book acts as a revision or checklist to see where you stand. Instead, if you are at the bottom of your life, where you need a few situations where you can relate yourself to the characters in that situation, then this book is for you. Don’t expect this book to change your life in just one reading. You might have to do further research on how to deal with the obstacles you face while practising these habits and also to learn how to make these habits in the first place.

Summary:

1. I will form good daily habits and follow them daily:

Successful people have more good habits and less bad habits. For every bad habit they have, they write down the opposite of that habit which makes it a good habit. If you are a binge eater, make a habit of eating mindfully.

2. I will set goals for each day, for each month, for each year and for the long term. I will focus on my goals each and every day:

Successful people don’t float in the air but pursue their goals diligently. They have daily to-do lists. They break down their monthly goals into tasks. They envision their long- term goals.

3. I will engage in self-improvement every day:


Successful people read about their industry. They set aside some time each day for their development.

4. I will devote part of each and every day in caring for my health:


Successful people are mindful about the food they eat and have an exercise regimen.

5.I will devote each and every day to forming lifelong relationships:

Successful people know the importance of networking. They return to phone calls immediately. They go out of their way to meet people, but they avoid toxic people.

6.I will live each and every day in a state of moderation:

Successful people live in moderation. They eat, drink and spend moderately. They don’t let emotions affect them too much.

7. I will accomplish my daily tasks each and every day. I will adopt a “do it now” mindset:


Successful people do not procrastinate as they are aware that it leads to poor quality of service.

8. I will engage in rich thinking every day:

Successful people have a well-balanced mind. They have complete control over their emotions. They spend time on positive affirmations.

9.I will save ten percent of my gross income every paycheck:

Successful people set aside some money for savings before paying any other bills.they monitor their retirement plans regularly.

10.I will control my thoughts and emotions each and every day:

Successful people have emotional mastery. They follow the policy of “think, evaluate and react” when faced a difficult situation.


Which of these rich habits do you have? Let me know in the comment section.
Happy making rich habits!




Love yourself

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“I hate him for dumping me. I will hurt him as much as I can.”
“How can she sleep before I return home? I will not let her sleep the entire night”
“I should have picked the call when my grandfather called me. He would not have died if I had picked up the call on time.”
“John has not been inviting me to parties since past few months. But we are still thick friends.”
After a sad incident in life, many go into the self-loathing mode. They can’t accept reality. They can’t accept themselves. They just want to run away from everything.
Well, how is it so easy for some people to move on and for some others difficult? What do happy people do differently?

Accept yourself: 

“My life is in a mess”. Okay, your life is in a mess. Accept that. You can’t improve if you don’t accept your current situation. Accept your weakness. Accept your desires. Let things flow. You are only running away from reality by ignoring your life.

Take responsibility for your actions: 

Mistakes happened. Feel accountable for whatever mistakes happened because of you. Take responsibility for your mistakes. Learn from your mistakes. Fix them. Make necessary changes so that they are not repeated again.

Past is past: 

Whatever happened has happened. Past can’t be changed. People who died can’t come back to live. Lost relations might be difficult to fix. Opportunity once lost might not come again. Do whatever you can today instead of brooding over the past.

Appreciate: 

As soon as you wake up each morning, appreciate the good things about you and your life. This helps you start the day on a good note to notice more positives than negatives.

Do something good: 

Try to help someone for whom you are not responsible. You can help an old person cross the road. Or you can sponsor one month of education for an orphan. It may or may not involve money. But just make sure you make someone happy daily in the however small way it can be.

Replace the negative thoughts with positive thoughts: 

Every time a negative thought comes to your mind, try to replace it with a positive one. Make a list of positive things about you and the good deeds you have done so far. Now when the negative thought or self-blaming happens, refer to the notes and repeat the good deeds you have done. You are not that bad after all.

Life is tough initially. But only our thoughts can make it simpler. Change your thoughts. Change your mind.

Excuse yourself. Love yourself.

Happy loving self!

Course Review: Improve Self-Confidence

Course Name: Self-confidence:  40 minute self-confidence and self-esteem
Website: Udemy

CONTENTS:

  • Handling the fear of rejection
  • Confident Body Language
  • Negative self-talk
  • Daily social interactions
  • Practice gratitude
  • Openness
  • Why I am great list

WHY I CHOSE THIS COURSE?

This is my fourth course. Lately, I have been feeling a little low on my self-esteem and was doing some research on it. That was how I came across this course. I just wanted to do this course to see if there were some new things to learn and the course was for just 40 minutes. It was easy to finish it and remember the points mentioned.

MY TAKE ON THE COURSE:

I spent 40 minutes on this course hoping to learn something new and exciting which I have not come across any time before. Sadly, there was nothing of that sort mentioned. The points mentioned were similar to what I read in different books and articles. A few of the things he mentioned in the course were the things I was already following naturally or were the things which I wanted to do for a long time but I have not made a plan for them.
But if you are a person who has no idea on how to deal with self-confidence issues, the course is great and offers a few points which can be implemented too.

SUMMARY OF THE COURSE:

Everybody has fears. Everyone faces rejections. But how we deal with rejections is what changes our self-esteem.
Fear of rejection:
Rejection has got nothing to do with us. We need to understand this before we understand others. It can be because of the situation or because of the opposite person. You can read more about rejection in this article.
Confident Body language:
One important point the speaker mentions in this course is how we carry ourselves sends signals to our brain. So we need to stand straight and not slouch so that we send the right signals to our brain. Closing our hands would mean that, we are being defensive. While shaking hands with a new person, give a straight handshake. If your hand is above or below the other person’s hand, you are either being dominant or submissive.
Negative Self-talk:
The speaker says that we have to change our thoughts as soon as we catch ourselves doing the negative self-talk. Almost all the articles and books I have read say the same. But implementation of this is not so easy. I have been struggling with this for quite so
me time now. If I can find a solution for this, I will write an article on this in future.
Daily Social Interactions:
The speaker gives us a challenge that we need to talk to talk to at least 3 strangers every day. Just by starting with a ‘hi’ initially and slowly increasing it to talking about our personal lives. I find this exercise difficult. I find it challenging to find strangers in the first place. But once I find someone, since I am already good at making friends with strangers, it wasn’t much of use to me.
Practice gratitude:
I have been practicing gratitude irregularly, hence could not reap any benefits from it yet. But the speaker talks about the feel of positive energy which one gets through practicing gratitude. But he has not mentioned about how to get to that state. Hence, I did not find it useful.
Openness:
Being vulnerable to others makes us improve our confidence. The same point was mentioned by Dushka Zapata in one of her answers on Quora. I was pretty much impressed with her explanation. I buy this idea totally now as I hear its usefulness once again. But there will be certain limitations to this method which have not been mentioned clearly in this course.
Why I am great list:
I had been planning on creating a similar list for quite some time now. One good thing which came out of this course is I finally penned down a few things in my list. I hope even you make your list. One problem which I have been facing since years is when I am low, I don’t really look at the list. Even if I do, I criticize the entire list negatively. The way to infuse positive energy looking at the list has not been clearly mentioned.
If you are a novice, looking forward to learning the basics, go ahead and do the course. Share your learnings in the comment section.
Happy learning!

30-day Challenge – A small step towards our big dreams

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All of us have dreams and resolutions. We start working towards something but quit when things stop going well. We juggle so many dreams. After a few years when we look back, it looks like we tried and we failed. But in the first place we never tried seriously to work on our goals.

What can be the solution for this?

30-day challenges can help us to achieve our goals and resolutions. In order to get good at something, we need to develop habits related to that. A routine takes 21 days to form a habit. This is where a 30-day challenge can be used to make the habits and retain them. The 30th day is not the end of the journey. It is just a milestone in the journey of the new habit. At the end of next 30 days, there will be a different milestone. It is the constant improvement of our lives which provides joy and fulfillment and not just a single milestone.
Why only 30 days? Why not 7 days or 6 months? 

30 days is neither too short as 7 days nor too long as 6 months. It will be an ideal time which covers both the good days when you feel good about your progress and also the bad days when you feel like giving up and also the tough days where you keep waiting when the 30 days will end.

In the past 30 days, I chose two 30-day challenges. One for my health and the other to improve my skills. The one for my health was running. I lead a sedentary lifestyle where I sit for 12 hours a day. Research says that people who sit for more than 6 hours a day are likely to die sooner than those who smoke every day. So this exercise helped me to have some movement in my day. But the 30-days were not a cake walk. The first few days of running gave me terrible cramps. On the 5th day, I was telling myself that it is just 5 more such 5-day sets. On the 10th day, I told myself it is just 2 more such 10-day sets. But today when I went for a run, it just felt like a habit such as brushing. It did not feel a great deal. There were days when I woke up late and did not have enough time to run. I went for a quick 5 minute run on those days. There were days when I was sad or depressed. I did not feel like moving out of my bed. But just to keep up with my 30-day challenge, I went for a run. And there will be a few days like today when it rained. I went for a run after it stopped raining. I have written in this article how helpful running was for me. And this is just the beginning of a habit. I have a lot more miles to run.
The other 30-day challenge which was related to my skills was writing. I took a 30-day challenge to write on Quora.com. I want to be a writer. I am not great at writing. But it gives me immense pleasure. Reading heals my wounds. Hence I want to write and make many others heal themselves through my writing. Like every other habit, I tried and failed in writing too. But doing a 30-day challenge helped me stick to it. And I chose Quora because I need not think every day what to write on. On a few days, I can just write a few words and still consider that I have written and published it. And in the beginning of this year, I thought I should have written 500 answers on Quora. That would have remained just as a dream if I had not written every day for the past 30 days. On this 30th day, I am not going to stop writing there. I will keep blogging regularly and even continue writing there too.
The following are a few guidelines for 30-day challenges:
Choosing a challenge:
Write down the list of things you always wanted to do. Classify them into categories like health, relations, finance, personal skills or any other one you have. Prioritize the categories and goals in each category. Start with the first category for this month.
Accountability:
Tell someone you trust that you are on a 30-day challenge.You will more accountable when they inquire your progress. 
Start Small:
If you take up a challenge of lifting 10kg weight every day when you have not even lifted 1kg any time before, the challenge would be unrealistic and there are higher chances of you giving up on the third day itself. Instead, if you start with 500 gms on the first day. You might be able to lift the 10 kgs on the 30th day.
Gather resources:
30-day challenges are difficult to stick with when you don’t have easy availability of resources. I gave up writing many times when I started them previously because of lack of easy availability of prompts. That is why I chose Quora this time so that I can choose a question from millions of questions out there. I need not waste my energy in deciding what to write on.
At the end of this 30-day challenge, I will be starting with a new set of challenges from tomorrow. The book “Happiness Project” inspired me to take this next set of challenges. The author of the book transformed her life through a set of 12 such 30-day challenges. Comment below what is going to be your first 30-day challenge.
Happy 30-day Challenge !

Recipe for Motivation

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We have new year resolutions, birthday resolutions, short term goals, long term goals so on and so forth. But very few actually succeed in achieving them. Why is it that many of us fail?

We constantly look for motivation. Someone to motivate us. We search for motivational stories and videos. But for how long will we keep looking for something external? Is there a way to make it internal? Habits make the motivation internal. But what about the motivation to make habits? We can use external motivation till we make the motivation internal. The following are a few ways to make use of external motivation:
Clarity of the purpose:
When I am clear about what I want to achieve from my goal or resolution, I tend to stay with it for a longer period till the purpose is realized or defeated. When I was preparing for a competitive exam, I was clear about the end objective. I knew what I would get out of clearing the exam and what if I did not. I kept preparing for it after failing twice because I wanted it then at any cost. But later on, I gave up that goal since the purpose became obsolete. After failing in that goal, I could not stick with any other goal because I didn’t have any clear purpose on the new goals I was setting. So write down the purpose of your goal or resolution and the consequences of not achieving it. On the days you like giving up, go back and read it. If you still feel the need to achieve it, you will take it more seriously. Otherwise, you just trash it.
Availability of resources:
I always loved reading books.I lose track of time. But if I look at the number of books I have read till now, the number is very low compared to the passion I have for it. The reason was obvious. I don’t enjoy reading e-books much and I have a dust allergy because of which I can’t read books which are dusty or ill maintained. So when I started working, I borrowed books from an online library which delivered books home. All I needed to do was select the book online. The result was I read 20 books in 4 months. The same is the case with another hobby of mine.I love oil painting but have not done it in a while because the resources and procedure required for it are not as easy as getting hold of a book. So list down the resources you require and keep them handy.
Planning:
My new goal is massive. I hardly made any progress in the beginning as I didn’t have a written plan on how I will achieve it. I was constantly failing to make any progress. Even though I allocated some time for it on a few days, I used to not know from where to start. I used to work on a task but I did not have a log of what I finished. Then I realised that I need to break into small parts which won’t scare me. I broke down the entire goal into multiple parts – daily, weekly, monthly, yearly level. I made a note of time I can afford to spend on it. Later, I made a note of actual time I spent on it which in turn helps me in assessing the time I take to finish a task. This way planning creates a sense of urgency and accomplishment. So break down your goal into easily doable tasks and have timelines and deadlines for it.
Measure your success:
I keep a track on the number of repetitions I do for each type of exercise and the food I consume daily. Since waiting for a few months to see the end result is a long time, daily tracking gives me motivation towards the end goal.
Declaring your goal to people who keep a check on you:
My new year resolution was to stop complaining about trivial things. Since I spend most of my day at the office, I declared my resolution to my colleagues. They keep reminding me of my goal every time I tend to complain. Since I don’t want to be a person who can’t keep my words, I follow through.
All the above will work as a recip
e for motivation till you form the habit. Once the habit is formed, you will be executing the tasks automatically.

Keystone Habits – Key to chain of Habits

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Keystone habits help you create a lot of other habits without much struggle. It is similar to building a strong foundation which keeps the building strong. So what are the keystone habits which you can start with today?

Waking up early:
Do you feel like jogging when the sun stares into your eyes or when there is a lot of pollution? People don’t like to jog after it gets late in the morning. If you want to exercise outdoors, waking up early becomes a keystone habit. It not only helps in exercising, but also gives you sufficient time to plan for the day. The capacity of brain to make decisions is limited. So if you wake up early, you will be using your brain in productive work when it is most active after a good night’s sleep. If you want to do some reading or writing, mornings are the best. The other habits which follow this keystone habit are
    • Exercise
    • Drinking a glass of water on empty stomach
    • Making task list
    • Reading newspaper
The habits which follow the keystone habit are the next level of keystone habits. Once you start exercising, you start eating healthy. When you make a task list, you tend to be more productive as you attend only the most important tasks for the day and end up being more organised without having to do anything more about it. Your creativity increases because you only think about the task at the hand.
Writing a journal:
It helps you connect with yourself. You can identify your strengths and weaknesses. It makes you better. It includes your goals, relations, career, food, expenses and everything. Hence it is a keystone habit. The other habits which you can develop through this are:
    • Tracking your goals
    • Pursuing whatever you wanted to
    • Self-talk
    • Improving your relations
    • Tracking your emotions
These are the two keystone habits which created a rippling effect in my life. I have started with only two because it is difficult to stick with more than two habits at a time.
Happy keystone habit formation!

Social Relations – Embrace them or Avoid them?

Man is a social animal. Research shows that well-being of a man is dependent on his social circle. At the same time, another research shows that being dependent on others is not a trait of mentally strong people. Are they conflicting?
Well-being of a person depends on healthy relations he maintains. If there are toxic people around you, they drain out your happiness irrespective of how positive you try to be. I had friends who used to contact me only when they had problems. I used to make their problems mine and find solutions for them. But they would not implement them and come back to me again to only complain. People find comfort in complaining. For them friendship is only for complaining. When I started logging the days I broke down or was feeling low, it was because of the toxic people in my life. So I started avoiding those who drain my energy. I just did whatever I could for them instead of taking things to heart. But what if you felt hurt by everyone?
If you are right now in a stage where you feel that everyone out there exists only to hurt you, you must be suffering from low self-esteem which might have been the result of continuous rejections and loneliness. The glasses through which you are looking at the world might have been tinted with negativity. Don’t worry! It is never too late to change, you can do a few exercises to get back to healthy well-being.

COMMON MISCONCEPTIONS FOR DEVELOPING HEALTHY SOCIAL LIFE:

I NEED TO TRUST THEM

Research shows that people are more trustworthy than we perceive their trustworthiness as. Take a chance and trust them. If they are trustworthy, you will get a trustworthy friend for a lifetime. If they are not, you can tell them how you trusted them so that from next time they might be more trustworthy. In either case you nothing much to lose. If you don’t take that chance, you will never be able to build a relationship.

I NEED TO BE VULNERABLE

By being vulnerable, you will be giving the control of your happiness to the other person. You need to just concentrate on adding value to their life. It has got nothing to do with vulnerability.

WE DON’T HAVE COMMON INTERESTS

You need not necessarily have common interests. You can still be friends and respect and accept them for who they are and not on what you expect them to be.

 

EXERCISES:

GIVE MORE THAN YOU TAKE:

Friendship or social relations is not about how much you are getting out of the relation. It is about finding happiness in giving. Your mother does so much for you. She doesn’t do it with an expectation that some day you are going to do something for her. She just does it out of love. She gives more than what she takes. She is just happy seeing you succeed.

CREATIVE ALTRUISM:

I came across this term on a course on happiness (A life of happiness and fulfillment).  Altruism, in general, is just about giving. You might give some money to a beggar and it counts as altruism. But creative altruism is about giving it to someone who need not necessarily requires what you are giving. You need to just surprise them.
One day, my colleagues were busy and could not take time off for a break. Even though I was busy, I could finish my work earlier than them. Since it was festival time, I bought sweets for them. They were more than happy as they were hungry and got something tasty to eat. There was a transformation in their behaviour post that incident. You can also try some experiment like this once in a while.

CHANGE YOUR VIEW:

Identify your negative thoughts as soon as they pop up and change them to positive.
Thought 1: My friends did not invite me for lunch.
Thought 2: I informed my friends last week about my new project. They were considerate enough to not disturb me.
Don’t try to verify if the second thought. But just believe it. Change your thoughts, change your life.
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Happy developing relations !

Run Boy Run

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Running, Jogging, Walking – A combination of these three is what begins my day. This new habit is a by-product of my key-stone habit of waking up early. If this habit is only for exercise, I have been doing yoga for 6 years. Why do I need to run?

Every exercise has its own advantages. I am not prophesying that running is better than yoga. But there are many other benefits to running other than usual benefits of the exercise.
Running for Mental Health
Running improves mental health and keeps us away depression. It reduces the levels of stress and anxiety. It also improves memory and brain power by producing new neurons and retaining the newly produced neurons.
Running increases Pain endurance:
When I was doing yoga, I hardly experienced any pain.  But when I started running, first few days were really bad. I had severe cramps. I was neither able to sit nor stand. And it was for the good. I had millions of micro tears in my muscles which help in formation of new muscles. I developed the strength to endure pain.
Life Lessons from Running:
Running was very difficult to start for me. I gave up in the first ten days when I initially started it. I could not bear the fatigue. I had to take a day off from my work as I needed some rest. But it taught me a few life lessons:
Push yourself:
In life, there is no growth if you are stuck in the comfort zone. You need to keep pushing yourself to grow as a person. Running taught me how to do this. Whenever I feel I can’t run anymore, I tell myself just a hundred more meters.
Keep moving no matter what:
There is a saying “If you can’t run, walk. If you can’t walk, crawl. But keep moving.” Every day I set myself a target of 3 Km. I walk, jog and run to cover this distance. I start with brisk walking, then run and slowly make it as jog and then walk till my breath comes to normal.
Never give it up:
It is easy to give up. Anyone can say I tried but gave up. How many of them say I did it till the last? Initially, even I gave up within first 10 days. But the second time I started, I did not want to give up. I went for a walk if I could not run. I woke up extra early on the days I had to leave early for work. But I did not give up. This attitude helped me in my work also. I used to give up easily previously. But now I go the extra mile to get things done.
Don’t do it under convenience:
Previously, I used to do things only if I were in the mood to do it. But now I do it because I have decided to do it. No excuses. No postponing. Running has trained me to develop this attitude.
What are you waiting for? Start running. Even if you want to run just for 5 minutes, even that is a good start.
Happy Running!

A course a month makes you a little smarter, sharper and wiser

All of us need improvement on a daily basis to be a better human. It also helps us in staying ahead in this competitive world. The most common suggestion you must have heard is to read a book. But at times we don’t have the luxury to read a book or if you are a listening learner, courses are a better choice.
 
Mona was browsing the net one afternoon. She stumbled upon a website and felt overwhelmed at the number of courses which she found interesting. “I want to do all these courses” thought Mona. She wished she had all the time in the world to do those courses. It was Monday morning and she was back to her routine life style. Six months passed. She came across the courses again and felt sad for not doing them till now. She cursed her busy schedule for not being able to do the courses. But something different happened in the next 3 months. She has finished 2 courses, one each a month.

What happened in this time period? What did she do differently now?
Many of us who are reading this article now are like Mona. We want to do a lot of courses and won’t find time. We need not feel disappointed for our time mismanagement. We can also do what Mona did. 
The following is the secret:
 Selection of course:
This looks like a very obvious thing but it is not. Choose a course which not only interests you but also helps you in application of it in your daily life or in your work place. This will serve as not only a motivation to stick to the course but also makes the learning stronger. When I started this challenge of doing at least one course a month, I started with a course named ‘Learning how to learn’. That was a key stone course because that course taught me how to learn.
Contents of the course:
Sometimes the titles might be misleading. Read carefully what the course offers. Go for the course only if matches your needs.
 Level of the course:
Choosing a course which is higher than your level scares you. I once took a course on regression when I was not even aware of the basics of statistics because of which I was not able to do the course for more than a week. In another instance, I took a course on painting, where they were teaching about colors. For a person who had already painted a lot of paintings, a class on colors sounded boring. But when I did a course on irrational behavior, the content was interesting and it did not require me to know high level technical stuff, hence I could complete the course. Similarly, for you to feel the flow and enjoy the course, it should be a little higher than your standard. Neither too high nor too low.
 Rating and Reviews of the course:
Before starting the course, read what others think of the course. Do not get carried away by the comments but be aware of it.
Duration of course:
Make a note of the number of hours the entire course takes. Make a plan based on the amount of free time you have per day. For example, it is a 28 hour course. Take the course one hour per day and take off on a few Sundays.

 Finding Time:

As we have seen in the above example, we need one hour a day to do the course. This does not necessarily mean you have to find one hour at a stretch from your daily schedule. Do you wait for a cab pick-up? Do you commute to your work place? Do you take small breaks between your work hours? That is the time you have to utilize. A ten minute here and there. That will add up to the time you require in the day. I have finished two courses on courser in those 10 minute breaks I take here and there.
The following are a few websites on which courses can be done:
I am also one among you. I have taken a challenge to do at least one course a month. I am on the verge of finishing two courses now. In the next articles, I will write the articles on summary and my learnings from those courses.
Happy learning!

How to form a Habit – Routines that stick

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Mona : Someone is late to the office today again.
Sona: I wanted to be on time. But I switched off the alarm and slept off.
Mona: The same story again huh ?
Sona: What can I do about it? I have been struggling so hard to wake up early. But I am just not able to do that.
Mona: I can empathize with you. Even I keep missing out on my workouts.
Sona: Is there no trick at all for making good habits?
Can you relate yourself to them? If yes, then this article is for you. In order to stick to a routine where you do the act subconsciously, you need to make it a habit. There is nothing called as habits that stick. If a routine is being done subconsciously over a period of time, it is already called a habit. Habits are the ones which are already stuck. You don’t need any special glue to stick them again. But how to form a habit in the first place ?
There are 3 R’s for a habit, according to Charles Duhigg, the author of Power of Habit.

REMINDER:

In order to start something, you need a reminder. You eat when you are hungry. Why do you do this? Because hunger acts as a reminder that it is time for you to eat. In a similar way, for every habit you want to make, find a reminder. There are 5 types of reminders.

TIME:

Habit Time as Reminder
Paint I paint on Tuesdays and Thursdays
Leave for office When the clock strikes 9, I will leave for office
Pay bills When it is 5th of the month, I pay all my bills

PEOPLE:

Habit People as Reminder
Ask about tablets Whenever I see my grandparents, I will ask them if they have taken their tablets
Smile Whenever I come across someone I know, I smile at them
Make conversations Whenever I come across my neighbours, I will make a conversation
Deep breathing Before I meet my boss, I will take deep breaths and go.

PLACE:

Habit Place as Reminder
Buy fruits Whenever I am in the supermarket, I will buy fruits
Self-talk Whenever I am in front of the mirror, I will do positive talk with myself
Read books Whenever I am commuting or standing in queues, I will read book
Drink water Whenever I am in the kitchen, I will drink water

EVENT:

Habit Event as Reminder
Write Whenever I open my laptop, I will write my article
Eat healthy As soon as I eat lunch, I eat fennel seeds which helps in digestion
Learn a new language As soon as I reach home, I spend 5 minutes on Duolingo

EMOTIONS:

Habit Emotions as Reminder
Journal Every time I feel an emotion, I will write down about it
Eat healthy Every time I feel craving, I eat healthy food
Make new hobby Every time I feel low, I will work on something new

ROUTINE:

Start the habit in the smallest way possible and then slowly increase it. If the routine is not the smallest amount into which you can break into, and it requires your will power to execute it, then you might not make it into a habit.
If you want to start reading a book, just open the book each day. The one paragraph a day and then probably a few pages a day. If you want to work-out, just wear shoes every day first. Then walk up to the gym centre. Then this does not feel much of a deal, then start working out.
Routine becomes a habit only when it is done in a sustainable way. I had a tough time making newspaper reading as a habit. But now I go to the newspaper vendor every day as a habit and not because I have to go get it. That is the power of habit and starting small.
To make the routine sustainable, you can start it as a 30-day challenge. A 30-day challenge never means that you have to do it for 30 days and leave it. It has to be done forever, but the 30-day challenge serves as an initial external motivation which has to eventually get converted to the subconscious routine. You can also refer to this article to see how to break habits into smaller action items.

REWARD:

For working so hard in the routine step, you need a reward for the routine to stay. Reward need not be treating yourself each time. It can something as small as praising yourself or putting a tick mark in your daily checklist. Or just feeling happy about the positive effects of the habit in your life. I have been using habit loop tracker application on the android device to track my habits. It acts as a reward system for me.
Go ahead and make a list of habits you want to make. And prioritize two of them for the first one month. You can choose two keystone habits for the first month.
Happy Habit Forming !