I picked up this book last September to learn about a few techniques to understand manifestation better. But I could not read more than 2 chapters back then. As they say, everything will happen when the right time comes, without the other books I read in between, I would not have been able to read this without skepticism.
Did this book help me in manifesting better?
Even though I am yet to follow the principles in this book, the one thing I really liked about the examples in this book were they were real. She wrote about the everyday frustrations she felt even though she is already a spiritual coach. It made me feel more human and told me that it is okay to feel frustrated at times and lose faith but what matters more is resilience and coming back to faith.
- Hard life experiences are spiritual assignments for growth and healing
- If you are trying to control things which are beyond your control, you are trying too hard and that repels from it to happen
- Your thoughts are the messages you send to Universe
- For every issue you face, you have a choice. You either let it dictate you or learn a lesson from it
- If you dwell in lack and fear, you are pushing away things you desire. Just by feeling better, you are aligning yourself with the Universe
- Whenever you face a problem, choose surrender as the first option. Use prayer to express your concern
- Ego and spirit are always in a conflict. Ego doesn’t let you feel good. It comes from a place of lack and fear.
- When you make feeling good a priority, everything else will flow automatically
- If you are happy for a reason, that reason can cease to exist tomorrow. Decide to feel good just for the sake of it
- Envy brings down your vibration and reduces your chances of attracting what you desire
- Raise your vibration from grief to anger and from anger to desire then passion. This shift makes a huge difference to ask for something from the place of hopelessness to from a place of joy
- When you ask for something, is it because you want to validate your feelings or for the greater good? This decides whether you receive what you are asking for
- Make appreciation a habit. If possible write 5 pages of appreciation every morning or night. This helps you stay positive and attract more.
- “I forgive my past, I release the future and I honor how I feel in the present”
- “Many of us don’t realize the feeling bad is a decision we have made.”
- “Don’t blame others for their resistance. They are merely reflecting back to you any lingering resistance of your own.”
- “Showing up for your dream takes guts and it can bring up a lot of fear”
- “Fear of not having enough and fear of not being enough are both major blocks to our Super Attractor power”
- “You do not attract what you want, you attract what you are”
- “ In prayer, you ask for guidance and in meditation you listen”
Should you read this book?
If you are new to manifesting, this book gives you a good idea on the basic concepts but you might not be ready to trust that this works. If you are an expert in manifesting, you might get bored of repetition of the same concept throughout the book. It is a good book for someone who has not covered a lot of ground and needs a reminder to stay positive and choose faith over fear.
Happy becoming a super attractor!
I grew up in a traditional Hindu Brahmin family where mantras and rituals were a part of daily life. There was a time when I was reciting hanuman chalisa every morning but I soon gave up that practise. I picked up this book to explore the science behind mantras to see if that is something I want to get back to. The book gave me the apt information I was looking for. The book starts with quoting scientific studies on people where mantras have helped in well-being. When seeing images filled with fear, people who were reciting a mantra felt calmer than people who didn’t. Then the author goes further quoting different mantras and their uses and the right way to do them.
- While there are a lot of affirmations you can say to feel good, reciting a mantra is more helpful as they have the power which has been transferred since ages
- Scientific studies on mantras revealed its impact on relaxation, lower blood pressure, reduce obsessive thinking, improve focus, increase resilience, fight alzheimer’s disease.
- Mantra practise involves – gathering attention, notice the mind wander, let go distraction and bring back attention
- There are three ways to practise – speaking, singing and writing
- Using a mala helps in counting the mantra and doing it for the right number of times
- Mantras have to be written in the right strokes for them to be helpful
- Mantras for peace are Aum, Aum Shanti, lokah samastha sukhino bhavanthu. If you are reciting them, it is helpful to recite it 108 times with a mala
- AUM denotes four aspects
- A – waking state
- U – dream state
- M – dreamless state
- Silence after sound – Transcendental space
- Mantras for healing are called bija mantras. They are Lam, Vam, Ram, Yam, Ham, Aum. They need to be practised associating each of them with the chakra they belong to.
- Soham is the mantra for ‘I am that’. It helps in connecting with the divine
- Mantras for clarity are Gayatri Mantra and aum asato ma sadgamaya. Gayatri mantra is associated with Goddess Gayatri and the Sun God.
- Mantras for strength are Maha mantra, ram, jaya jagatambe ma durga. They are associated with Vishnu, Ram and durga respectively.
- Mantras for liberation are aum gam ganapathaye namah, aum namah shivaya, jai gurdev.
- Mantras can be effective to replace negative emotions, empowering yourself, infusing food with positive energy.
Should you read this book?
For an atheist or non hindu, this book provides the scientific research behind the power of vibrations of certain sounds. If you can disassociate yourself with the thought of god and devotion and consider this as a power of vibration of certain words, go ahead and read it to learn about different methods to change your life.
This is another book I picked up hoping to train my intuition skills. Even though the book had nothing to do with learning intuition, I found it very powerful. Each sentence was power packed with the right words which leave a great impact long after you have read it. This was a small book which I could finish in one stretch but at the same time it is a book which needs to be read daily till all the points are strongly internalised.
- Manifestation is not just about praying for things to happen. You need to show active faith acting as if it has already happened
- Always choose the path of non resistance.
- Bless the person who annoys you, angers you or cheats you. You get what you give.
- When it comes to money, consider that you are drawing from the abundance of the universe and not from your job
- You see what you train your mind to see. If you train it to see happiness, you will see only happiness everywhere
- Be careful with the words you use to describe your situation or to describe someone. If you call ‘poor’, you will become that
- If you are physically ill, check for the recent disruption in your mental health. A skin disease indicates mental irritation, torpid liver indicates condemnation and jealousy, a poor eyesight is due to fear and resentment, hearing issues stems from stubbornness and strong personal will
- Watch your motives. If they come from a place of lack, you will end up in loss.
- Are you longing for it or feeling that you already have? This decides whether your desire to manifest comes true
- If you are questioning how things will happen, you already lost the game. Faith is the source of manifestation
- How frequently are you cleaning your spiritual glasses? Fear, worry and resentment will regularly taint your glasses.
What are you wishing for today?
Happy thinking positive!
I picked up this book to work on my intuition skills. But the book turned out to be a bundle of joy rather than a book to learn about intuition. It was a mind opening book which left me craving for more of such good feeling.
Key learnings from the book
- After people die ( cross), they reach the other side. Irrespective of how much pain they have gone through on the Earth, they are free of all the pain on the other side
- Even though they are biased and not always right while on the Earth, they think with totality when they are on the other side
- There is no revenge and whatever love has been shared on the Earth will only multiply by infinite times when they reach the other side and they want to express this by constantly guiding us.
- We can look for guidance through the standard ways through which they usually express – numbers, sign posts, billboards, rainbows, butterflies, insects, deers, electric signals, phone texts or blank calls. The other way is to look for things which they deeply loved. If this also doesn’t work, ask for a clear sign which either comes intuitively to you or make it a difficult or unique signal which you don’t necessarily see
- Once you establish a signal, you can reach out to them whenever you are missing them or have a difficult decision to make
- If you are mindful, you can notice their presence during your family gatherings
- This process applies not only for the people who crossed in this life but the connections you have over other life times
- If you had a miscarriage or a still birth, it is not your fault. That was the contract you had with that soul
- If you are having a difficulty making a choice on whether to have a child or not, it is okay to not choose to have a child. If you have the child, they will bring in a lot of happiness and healing into your life. If you don’t choose to have it in this life, it will happen in some other life.
- At the end of the day, whatever signs in you get in whatever situations they are only for guidance. It is your free will whether to go with them or not.
- Make these decisions from a place of love and not from place of fear
- Even though they are present to guide you on the right action path, sometimes you will have to go through your problems because that will lead to higher path or it is because of your past life karma
- If you want to develop this kind of intuition, you should start by cleaning your energy. You can do this by walking in a forest, enjoying moving water like shower or ocean, or meditation.
- It is helpful to do a bit of meditation and calming down the thoughts before reaching out to the other side. This also happens naturally while you are in the shower or in a relaxed state.
- When asking for a manifestation, try to be as specific as possible and mention the date or month. For dates, mention the date and say or sooner and for money, mention the amount and say or more because we should not limit the abundance.
After reading this book, I felt so happy for the people who are dead. It might not be the right thing to say to a person who just lost a dear one, but it is good for the person who left us because he finished his journey on the Earth and is doing well somewhere else. They are constantly watching us and showering us with love by showing signs and letting us know of their presence.
I asked for a sign of crown from a loved one of mine who crossed a decade ago. He sent it to me through a whatsapp emoticon. In retrospection, when I think of the months and years after he passed away, I can recollect all the signs he sent me back then. This is more than a mere coincidence if you choose to believe in this.
Should you read this book?
Even though in the end, the author explains how this works scientifically and also mentions cases of how doctors and other people who have deep scientific bent of mind experienced this, I suggest that don’t read it with skepticism. You read it only if you can give it a possibility that it exists. If you are trying to validate the science explained in the book, you will not be open enough to receive the signs and feel good about all the stories of the book.
If you believe in the other side, go read it and fill your heart with joy.
Happy Discovering your Signs!
I picked Headspace Guide to Meditation because it was one of the top reads on the topic Meditation which is a part of my theme for the year which is spirituality. I didn’t have great expectations from the book as it was just going to be a repeat of what I already knew. But then I enjoyed certain parts of the book for his style of explanation and the analogies he used.
As I write a review of this book after almost 6 months, these are a few things which I still remember from the top of my head.
- The author lived as a monk in the Eastern side hopping from one monastery to the other choosing what works best for him. He practised meditation thoroughly before he started a profession in that. One such example he quotes based on this is, how a monk decided to leave a monastery where he was expected to do gardening 8 hours a day instead of just spending the entire day in meditation. While meditation is important, being mindful in the rest of the day plays an equally important role as not everyone can leave their lifestyle and shift to monk life. I was grateful for the validation I received for my thought process through this.
- There is no good or bad meditation. If you are meditating, you observe your thoughts. If you are not observing your thoughts, it is no longer meditation.
- Meditation is like watching vehicles pass in front of you on a highway. If you like a vehicle, you don’t start running behind it. You just acknowledge it and let it go.
- The mind is like the sky. Thoughts are like the clouds. There are clear sky days, there are cloudy days. There are rainy days. But the sky remains the same.
- In the initial days, meditation feels impossible because your mind is like a wild horse. You can’t expect to domesticate in a day. When you tame a wild horse, you should first start by reducing its running space by one diameter each day until the space becomes smaller and smaller and then finally it learns to stay in a stable.
- When you start staying mindful and let’s say you go on a mindful walk on the same street you have been going throughout your life, the street looks completely new.
Is this book for you?
- I am new to meditation
- I need analogies and impact of meditation
- I want to understand what monk like is like
- I need some practice exercises on meditation
If you are at intermediate level, the book is more like a novel than with any practical use for you.
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If there is one book which I referred to everyone I spoke to since I read it, it is Untethered soul. The book has a soul which moves your soul to do what is the need of the hour. I read so many books on spirituality and awareness but no other book could convince me the need for meditation as much as this book did. It is one of the best reads of 2020. You may find the concept repetitive but it is just to drive home the point. The analogies Singer uses makes the concepts imprinted in your mind for future retrieval.
Ch1 The voice inside your head
When energy builds up inside, you want to do something about it. When you talk, that energy gets released.
Ch 2 Your inner roommate
The inner roommate keeps chattering all the time. No solution is possible if you are lost in the energy of the problem. “Who sees this? Who notices the inner disturbance” Asking these questions is the solution to your every problem.
Ch3 Who are you?
Exploring the question “Who am I?” helps you go deeper inside.
Ch4 The Lucid self
Our awareness is constantly lost in the objects around us. Whenever you want to recenter, say hello to the inside world and listen to the voice
Ch5 Infinite energy
There is infinite energy available. Food doesn’t help much when you are mentally and emotionally drained. But when you are in love, you have unlimited energy and you are never tired. To unlock this unlimited energy all the time, you need to be open and receptive. You block your heart to situations based on your previous experiences but that is just cutting you from your source of energy but not really protecting you.
Ch6 The secrets of spiritual heart
When you keep closing your heart, you start storing energy patterns called samskaras. Once they fill up, it will lead to a state of depression.
Ch7 Transcending the tendency to close
The more you protect yourself, there is little spontaneous joy and excitement. When you start watching your thoughts and stop blocking your heart, the real spiritual growth happens and you feel the change in energy levels
Ch8 Let go now or fall
Life gives you problems to grow. If you start protecting yourself from problems, they will get tougher. If you let go in the beginning, a growth happens and it doesn’t reoccur.
Ch9 Removing your inner thorn
When you have an insecurity inside you and you avoid situations which will activate them will not help in your growth. When it gets activated, notice it like a third person.
Ch10 Stealing freedom from your soul
Mind always tells you that you need to change the outside world to fix your inner problems. Relieve the mind from its job of fixing the outside world for you. When it tells you to do something, don’t participate in the conversation.
Ch11 Pain, the price of freedom
Change involves challenging what is familiar to us and daring to question our traditional needs for safety, comfort and control.
Ch12 Taking down the walls
The more you sit in the seat of witness, the more you feel independent.
Ch 13 Far, far beyond
To go beyond, you must keep going past the limits that you put on things. Your mental model bothers you, because it doesn’t incorporate reality. When you stop doing things which make you comfortable, you see why you are doing them. There are two ways you can live: you can devote your life to staying in your comfort zone, or you can work on your freedom
Ch 14 – Letting go of false solidity
Clinging creates the bricks and mortar with which we build a conceptual self. If you stop clinging, you will see why the tendency to cling was there.
Ch 15 – The path of unconditional happiness
In life, there is only one choice to make – Do you want to be happy? But we often confuse this with external conditions. The question really means is “Do you want to be happy irrespective of whatever happens?” Any condition you create will limit your happiness.
Ch 16 – The spiritual path of nonresistance
Stress only happens when you resist life’s events. You are generally using will to resist – that which has already happened or which hasn’t happened yet
Ch17 – Contemplating death
You don’t need more time before death. Live every moment of you life and let it fill you completely
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Thich Nhat Hanh books give me a sense of peace just by reading. That was the only selling point of this book for me. I picked this book for understanding how to adopt mindful walking into my life. But the book did not have any real tips.
The book has a similar structure of ‘how to sit’. It is an easy read but reading it in one go defeats the purpose of the book. The best way to read this book is to read only one chapter a day to remind or motivate yourself to walk mindful daily. The book has a few anecdotes which get stuck in your head and push you to adopt mindful walking.
- The first thing to do is lift your foot. Breathe in. Put your foot down, first your heel then your toes. Then breathe out.
- When we return to our breathing, we return to the present which is our home.
- Every time we take a step, we appreciate the solid earth underneath us
- When we walk with others, the collective energy of mindfulness we generate is very powerful
- Make a contract with staircase and walk mindfully whenever you walk on those stairs
- Most of us walk without any chains, yet we aren’t free
Yoga nidra is a gift to mankind which helps in easy relaxation. I have been fascinated by yoga nidra and went to great lengths to make it a point to attend group sessions on yoga nidra. The magic it created in me made me go back to it over and again. When I got a chance to read this book, I wanted to understand what are the variations I can use in my daily life without needing external help.
I didn’t need to know about its uses because I practically received the benefits already. The book explained to me the reasons behind various instructions which I followed in the yoga nidra session. I didn’t know the requirement of why I should feel that my body is heavy and then again it is light before. Here I got to know that it is used to keep the mind alert. I didn’t know that order of rotation is important and I end up using my own convenient order. The order is important to establish pranic flow. All these days I have been scouring for methods to release energy from the suppressed feelings and here I get to know how the symbols used in yoga nidra already do the job for me.
- The ordinary things you do daily are not exactly relaxation in scientific terms
- There are 3 types of tensions – muscular, emotional,mental.Unless you relieve them, you will not feel refreshed even after a good night’s sleep
- If you are trying to change with your intellect, your results are superficial.
- Using sankalpas in yoga nidra, the author changed thousands of lives including criminals.
- Mind is extremely receptive in the state of yoga nidra.
- A person’s basic nature can’t be changed. It can be observed looking at his spontaneous acts
- Sankalpa is a major aspect in yoga nidra. Using this, you can achieve your destiny
- Even though sankalpa can be used to eradicate bad habits, it should be used for achieving self actualization which in turn helps in eradicating the bad habits. A greater understanding of sankalpa is needed before it is put to use.
- This process brings you to watch the subconscious and unconscious levels of karma, samskaras. Experiences like levitation might also occur.
- It has the power to active extra sensorial perception
- Yoga nidra and hypnosis are not the same. In hypnosis, you go into deep sleep and the brain is completely shut down whereas in yoga nidra you don’t sleep and your brain is fully awake. Ida and pingala are closed in both hypnosis and yoga nidra but in hypnosis sushumna is also closed whereas in yoga nidra sushumna takes the work of ida and pingala.
- The order of rotation is important because it establishes a pranic flow
- The images which are provided in the yoga nidra session are meant to release the energy which repressed thoughts hold.
- It is advisable to record the instructions or use a guided tool initially because you don’t want the brain to be working in an active state trying to recollect the order.
- It can be also used in a short way as a divider between work life and home life
- Learn how to use mandalas to clear the archetypes
Yoga nidra is useful to increase your learning capacity, reduction in stress, intrauterine growth in pregnant woman, reduction in hypertension, control of psychosomatic diseases, depression including suicide prevention and much more.
What are you waiting for? Go ahead and read the book to understand the science. If you don’t need the theory, record your own audio of the original instructions or use guided audios to start practising yoga nidra twice a day.
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After reading The Life changing magic of tidying up, I wanted to read deeper books on decluttering. Reading the description of what is your clutter trying to tell you, I felt that this book will have answers to the questions I had in mind. I won’t consider this as a mind opening book except for the concept of boundary setting. From the culture I come from, boundary setting is the rudest thing you can ever do. But this is what I needed to hear. This one concept made the book a good read for me. The other good points in the book is the way Richardson points out how the physical clutter you hold is related to the mental beliefs you hold. The book has action points for each chapter to make you do the thinking. Rest of the book is just okay. It is short and easy. I was half expecting Richardson to write a story on his journey of moving from 2000 sq ft to 230 sq ft but that story has not been discussed in detail.
The book starts with making the reader think about the clutter and the ways in which it might be telling a story which the reader is ignoring. It sets the tone to go deeper into understanding the clutter. Then he moves on to the inner critic we all have and how we find it difficult to get past the comfort zone, in this case, living with clutter. Then he mentions the top cluster hotspots and causes of them. In the next chapter, he addresses the causes of clutters in depth where he talks about the boundary setting. Later on, he provides insights on how we hold on to clutter since we can’t get rid of certain beliefs. In the last two chapters, he addresses how to get rid of the clutter.
- Causes of clutter
- Excess weight is usually a protection from other’s energy, painful relationships and nasty self-talk
- Physical clutter is sometimes the side effect of draining relationships. It is usually caused by the emotional clutter
- Car clutter tells that you are constantly on the run
- Hidden clutter is always calling for your attention and fuels your inner critic on what you should be doing
- Boundary setting – Practise disappointing challenge by saying no at least 3 times a day. Start with low risk relationships. Say no whenever you don’t really want to help and if helping drains your energy
- Statistically, we wear 20% of our clothes 80% of the time. It is time to regularly declutter the clothes you no longer wear
- Even though it is tough, declining hand me downs which are an obligation help you save clutter
- Look out for I might need this someday syndrome, retail therapy ( buying goods to feel better)
- When you keep items gifted by old relationships which you no longer have, they take up the energy which prevents the formation of new relationships
- If clutter were no longer an obstacle, what would you then have time for?
- We pile on the stories in our minds, making it bigger, heavier, and more intimidating than it needs to be
- Do you believe it is not spiritual to have financial abundance?
- Fear of rejection is a reason you can’t lose weight
- Sometimes the person you need to forgive is yourself
- She is not an asshole. She is just wounded.
- The art of extreme self care
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I had great expectations from the book when I picked it up. It came up in many book recommendations and it was one of the famous books on the subject of decluttering. But I was disappointed. I finished the book in one night as there was not really any engaging content. The author goes on and on about her obsession for tidying up and how she chose a profession which involves that and helps clients tidy up without a rebound. She randomly quotes examples of different clients and their clutter. Then she ends the book saying there are no real rules except for deciding for yourself what you really need. The book and her profession looked like works on only one principle of the nudge a person needs to clean up. She doesn’t talk anywhere about how to prevent the new things from piling up after the clutter is cleared to prevent the rebound she keeps mentioning in the book.
The best thing I like about the book is the author asks you to visualize how you want the house to be and then start discarding everything which doesn’t bring you any joy.
Mistakes in tidying up
- Tidying up by location instead of category
- Sending the clutter to parents
- Keep things “just because”
- Folding seems like extra work because you will wear it again
- Designate a spot for every category in the house
- The proper order is to place the clothes that are lighter in colour at the front and gradually progress to darker colours at the back
- Fold each piece of clothing into a simple rectangle
- Use photos, posters and ornaments to decorate the inside of cupboards
- No music while cleaning up the house
- Easy first and difficult ones last
- If you feel someone else is untidy check yourself first
- Visit model homes, ideal lifestyle
- Hanging takes up more space than folding
- People lost weight after letting go off the clutter
Food for thought
- Letting go is even more important than adding
- We attend seminars because we feel the passion of teacher and experience the learning environment
- When we fold we should put heart into it and thank clothes for protecting our bodies
- What you wear in the house impacts your self image
- An attachment to past or anxiety about the future
- Learn more about Feng shui
- The art of discarding by Nagisa Tatsumi
Happy Tidying up!