Book Review – Emotional Intelligence 2.0

Author: Travis Bradberry
Print Edition | Kindle
I love the book Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman. Since I wanted to learn deeply about emotional intelligence, I picked up emotional intelligence 2.0 hoping that it is an advanced version of the first. But I was heavily disappointed. It hardly had anything new for me to learn. I didn’t have any insightful moments through the book. In fact, more than emotional intelligence, it was a book on mental health. The book I had started writing on depression had the same points which were mentioned in this book.
The book starts off with an example to show the importance of EQ over IQ and then he goes on to explain that IQ is static. It is a very bold statement to say that IQ is static because there have been real life cases where the IQ increased over time.
The author wanted to show off that it is statistically backed by highlighting them but it looked like they were just picked up from somewhere and were not framed in the right way. For example, performance at work is not just dependent on EQ. The other factors were not explicitly mentioned. Similarly, the case with increase in income.
I found the chapter 3 unnecessary as one entire chapter was dedicated to show examples of emotionally intelligent and not so intelligent people. Those examples were not really required as they don’t add a lot of value to the book. Instead, if the author would have mentioned how to receive feedback from others about myself and then show the comparison about where I lie, it would have been helpful.
The next few chapters gives you strategies which you would have already tried in your life if you cared about your wellbeing. I was happy after I knew my triggers. When I am lost in turbulence of emotions, I ask why. I read books which help me find words to my emotions. My favourite songs are the ones I deeply connect with. If I am anxious, I breathe in and breathe out. We all know that we need to treat stress before it eats us up. Everything I achieved in my life would not have been possible without an accountability partner. I watch people around me to see what they are going through. I think what might be running in their minds. I watch movies to see how people react in different situations.
I can go on and on. But I choose to stop here. If I must put this in a simpler way, whatever was mentioned in the book, I already tried and tested them. They help you lead a happier life but I am not sure if the same can be called as an emotionally intelligent life.
In case, if you don’t already lead a happy life and have no knowledge of emotional intelligence, then this book is for you. It is one of the basic books you can start off with which gives you simple tips on taking control over your emotions. But if you are looking at some advanced science, you will be disappointed.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

The five love languages- Book review

Author : Gary Chapman
Print Copy | Kindle
 
A week back, one of my friends asked me
“ Should I go back to the first guy I spoke to? I don’t feel that way with anyone else?”
I said, “ No. You should just work it out with whoever you are speaking to now.”
She felt offended. “ Why do you look at arranged marriages lower to love marriages?”
I told her that in love marriages you are blinded with love initially, in arranged marriages you choose to love after marriage. A guy you meet in arranged marriage setup can make you feel the same if he chooses to make you feel that. You might never again feel after marriage the ‘in-love’ experience you are talking about.
She never replied to me. We have not spoken in the past ten days again.
Why does it take so much effort for a person to accept that love is a conscious choice you make?
 
This book answered that question of mine.
Even though this book has been written extensively for couples, it is not just for them. For any happy relation, you should be able to provide what they need and not what you can give.
If your baby is hungry and you give a toy, will it make the baby stop crying?
That is the concept which the author explained in the book.
 
It is a really short book. I finished it in one night. Even though it talks about the concept which we already know, he put a structure to it, which makes the concept clearer. He calls the way you can feel someone loved is like a language. If you don’t speak that language, you need to learn it. Knowing the language alone is not sufficient, you have to speak in the dialect too.
 
After each chapter, he gives you practical exercises which will help you take action on learning the language. At the end of the book, he has given a test to identify primary love language if you are not clear after reading the book.
 
I now know how to make my parents, sibling and friends feel loved. All I have to do is what they need and not what I can do the best to make them loved. Previously, I used to think that one form of expressing love was superior than others. But now I understand that one form is not superior than the other. It is about which one is important for the person you want to make feel loved.
 
Once when all my friends met, the host’s sister said “ Every weekend you complain that you have no one to go out with. Now when your friends are here, you just want to stay at home.”
 
My host friend said, “ All I want to do is spend time with them by playing indoor games and make wonderful memories.”
 
Her love language is quality time. What is yours?
 
Read the book and identify yours and that of important people in your life.
 
Happy loving!

Book Review – As a Man Thinketh

Author: James Allen
Print Copy | Kindle
It is one of the shortest books I ever read. It is second in the series of books I read on affirmations. When I read online reviews of Secret, everyone bashed the book saying it is all crap and too good to believe.
If the same message of secret has to be read in a compact, concise and classic style of writing, this is the book.
Did I learn something new from the book?
No.
But I thoroughly enjoyed the writing style of the author. It looked like every sentence written in the book was harsh truth. It is one of the well written books I ever read. The words are so concise and to the point. The writing style is so difficult to emulate.One needs to really learned and a great writer to write it in a precise to the point way. The words he used go directly touch your conscience and question your thoughts.
Next time when you have evil or negative thoughts, his words come into your mind. They remind you that you are the creator of your destiny. Do you really want your life to unfold in this path?
If there is one word to summarize the book, it is self-control.
 

Quotes

 

MAN’S mind may be likened to a garden, which may be intelligently cultivated or allowed to run wild; but whether cultivated or neglected, it must, and will, bring forth.

 

Thought and character are one, and as character can only manifest and discover itself through environment and circumstance, the outer conditions of a person’s life will always be found to be harmoniously related to his inner state

 
 

That circumstances grow out of thought every man knows who has for any length of time practised self-control and self-purification, for he will have noticed that the alteration in his circumstances has been in exact ratio with his altered mental condition.

 
 

The soul attracts that which it secretly harbours; that which it loves, and also that which it fears; it reaches the height of its cherished aspirations; it falls to the level of its unchastened desires,–and circumstances are the means by which the soul receives its own.

 
 

Circumstance does not make the man; it reveals him to himself

 
 

Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are.

 
 

What, then, is the meaning of “fighting against circumstances?” It means that a man is continually revolting against an effect without, while all the time he is nourishing and preserving its cause in his heart. That cause may take the form of a conscious vice or an unconscious weakness; but whatever it is, it stubbornly retards the efforts of its possessor, and thus calls aloud for remedy.

 
 

Men are anxious to improve their circumstances, but are unwilling to improve themselves; they therefore remain bound

 
 

In the light of a deeper knowledge and wider experience such judgment is found to be erroneous. The dishonest man may have some admirable virtues, which the other does, not possess; and the honest man obnoxious vices which are absent in the other.

 
 

Good thoughts and actions can never produce bad results; bad thoughts and actions can never produce good results.

 
 

The circumstances, which a man encounters with suffering, are the result of his own mental in harmony.

 
 

Blessedness, not material possessions, is the measure of right thought; wretchedness, not lack of material possessions, is the measure of wrong thought. A man may be cursed and rich; he may be blessed and poor. Blessedness and riches are only joined together when the riches are rightly and wisely used; and the poor man only descends into wretchedness when he regards his lot as a burden unjustly imposed.

 

 
A man is not rightly conditioned until he is a happy, healthy, and prosperous being; and happiness, health, and prosperity are the result of a harmonious adjustment of the inner with the outer, of the man with his surroundings.

 
 

Men imagine that thought can be kept secret, but it cannot; it rapidly crystallizes into habit, and habit solidifies into circumstance

 
 

Impure thoughts of every kind crystallize into enervating and confusing habits, which solidify into distracting and adverse circumstances: thoughts of fear, doubt, and indecision crystallize into weak, unmanly, and irresolute habits, which solidify into circumstances of failure, indigence, and slavish dependence: lazy thoughts crystallize into habits of uncleanliness and dishonesty

 

The people who live in fear of disease are the people who get it.

 
Happy thinking in the right way!
 
 
 
 
 

Book Review- The Secret

Author: Rhonda Byrne
Print Copy | Kindle
 
The past two months had been crazy for me. I had been trying out various ways to reduce the stress. Then I decided that the best way is to start dealing with my thoughts. I am aware of the power of sending messages to sub-conscious mind. I use that power to wake up in the morning. I want to make use of the same power to bring positivity into my life and get rid of stress forever.
The affirmations I was doing were not helping me in any way. My angel friend asked me to read ‘The Secret’ to learn about the right way to do affirmations.
I started off the book with high hopes that it will change my life drastically. But all the author asks is to think positive. I have previously attracted a lot of things which I deeply wished for. I can only comment on the authenticity of the book after I attract them again now. To stay positive, I kept a reminder in my phone for Morning, afternoon, evening and night. I close my eyes, smile broadly and repeat these affirmations. Whenever I feel negative, I force a smile on my face and try to look at the positive side of the situation. I had been writing my gratitude journal for more number of times than I used to previously.
 

Summary

 

  • The dreams you have for your life exist in a parallel world. By emitting a signal of the frequency of your dream, you bring that into reality
  • When you have good thoughts you feel positive emotions like joy, excitement. The more you feel this way, the more positivity you attract into life
  • Process
    • Step 1: The ask
      • From the catalogue of Universe wish for what you want
    • Step 2: The believe
      • Have faith that what you asked for is already yours
    • Step 3: The receive
      • Feel what it is like. To receive your order, all you have to do is feel good

 

The doubts of mine which the book answered

 
Will I ruin my life if I think negatively?
The power of a good thought is 100 times the power of a negative thought
 
What if I wish for what is not right for me?
There is a time delay between what you wish for and what you get
 
How do I know if I am thinking good thoughts?
Emotions are a result of our thoughts. In case you are not sure what you are thinking, ask yourself how you are feeling. That answers the question about the depth of your thoughts.
 
What do I do when I am spiralling down the negativity pillar?
Trigger the warning button and command it to change frequency
 
How to start with the positive thoughts?
Close your eyes. Focus on the feelings inside and smile.
 
How long will it take?
It takes the time for you to align your thoughts and be sure to reach the frequency of your dream
 
Will it take longer time to attract bigger things?
When you are considering something as big, you are not believing that you can get it. In that case, you can start small and slowly increase it.
 
Is there enough for all I ask for?
You can’t attract all you want if you have scarcity mentality. There is enough for everyone in the Universe.
 
How to deal with doubts?
Send that thought away. Tell yourself that you know that you are receiving the order
 
What to do about the events which did not go the way you want?
Replay them in the way you wish they could have happened
 
 

Best Practices

 

  • Let the first and last thought of the day be good ones
  • Practise meditation to gain control over your thoughts
  • Make a list of secret shifters which can change your mood immediately
  • Create your day in advance. Imagine what you want your day to look like
  • Practise gratitude. If you are not happy with what you already have, you will not get into the frequency of receiving bigger things in life
  • Visual motor rehearsal -By visualizing what you want, you are practising it in real
  • Cultivate abundant mentality
  • Make affirmations a daily practise

 
 
 

Mistakes to avoid

 

  • Don’t contradict your own thoughts
  • Don’t wish bad for others. Those thoughts will attract negativity into your life

 

Quotes

 
“Whatever you sow, you reap! Your thoughts are seeds, and the harvest you reap will depend on the seeds you plant.”
“You create your own universe as you go along.”
 

Summary in a sentence

Be happy. Think positive. You manifest all you wish.
 

Do I believe in the secret?

I believe that I am more creative and productive when I am happy. The happier I am, the better progress I make. The more progress I make, the closer I am to the reality of my dreams.
Happy attracting your dreams!
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Never Split the Difference – Book Review

Author: Chris Voss
Print Copy | Kindle
Never Split the difference is one of the best books I ever read. If anyone asks me for a life changing book, I will definitely suggest this.
 

What makes the book life changing?

 
Most of the conversations we have in daily life involve negotiations. From agreeing to a common breakfast to buying a house, everything is a deal. Yet we fail terribly to wade through them and compromise in life. As a result life becomes bitter, powerless or power hungry.
 
After reading this book, I became more observant in how negotiations are a part of daily conversations. It helped me avoid a few negotiation traps which I would have never recognized if not for this book. The conversations with sellers were excellent revision to the concepts I learned in this book. I also learned to empathize with people around me before I make my statement. If not for anything else, I won one negotiation. But all this is just the beginning. Previously I used to wonder what is there in a book to read it again and again. But this is a book, I want to read again and again till I master the concepts.
 

About the book

 
Chris Voss was an American FBI negotiator. He wrote the book quoting examples from his experience as FBI negotiator. I was hooked to the book in the beginning feeling awed at the way negotiations are done at that level. In the later part of the book, he included daily life examples too. The best part of the book is there is a summary after each chapter so that you need not take pains to make notes. It also has a chapter to teach you how to negotiate a salary. Even though I got bored in between, overall it was a great read.
 
In the appendix, he even gave out a summary of how to do a negotiation.
 
Happy learning how to negotiate!
 

Tiny Beautiful things – Book Review

Author : Cheryl Strayed
Print Copy | Kindle
 
After my best friend moved to another city, I acted as if everything was normal. “It has nothing to do with my daily life” I thought. But I came to terms with my reality after reading this book. It is okay to miss people whose company you enjoyed. The way Cheryl speaks is as healing as my friend did. I was missing the conversations I had with my friend. How I used to find them healing and empowering all at the same time just like Cheryl’s.
 
After reading Tiny Beautiful things, I felt very lucky and blessed in life. I did not have to go through all the miserable things the people who wrote letters to Cheryl went through. Yet in her replies, there were words which touched me somewhere deep. They gave me answers to the questions which had been lingering in my mind for quite a long time. Her writing is very beautiful. I felt that my pain had been empathized. Her words are so healing and powerful. This is no doubt one of the books you need to read once in a lifetime.
 
I learnt that you don’t have to be a therapist or psychologist to heal another person. You just have to know what life is all about. The ups and the lows. The beautiful and the ugly things. What to say and what not to. You just have to know what pain is and should have survived it. Only then you will be able to heal others.
 
Her writing is similar to Dushka Zapata, the writer I came across on Quora. I felt happy to discover Cheryl as another writer who can make me feel the same way as Dushka does. Even though Cheryl has been there since a very long time, I discovered her very late. But I am still happy to read her book.
 
Just like every other book I fell in love with,  this book also came to me at the right time. I initially got this book some time in April, but the reading the starting few pages made me felt that the book was not for me. But after looking at this book as a recommendation by few other writers, I was tempted to read it a little more to confirm if it is meant for me or not. Lucky me, I read it.
 
This book might not be for people who are cold and have no emotions. But if you are a warm person who loves reading personal stories and understanding human emotions, read it right away. You will regret neither the time nor the money you spend on it. I think reading this book was the best thing I have done in these holidays.
 

A few lines from the Tiny Beautiful things

 
For those who want to know what love is:
 

Love is the feeling we have for those we care deeply about and hold in high regard. It can be light as the hug we give a friend or heavy as the sacrifices we make for our children. It can be romantic, platonic, familial, fleeting, everlasting, conditional, unconditional, imbued with sorrow, stoked by sex, sullied by abuse, amplified by kindness, twisted by betrayal, deepened by time, darkened by difficulty, leavened by generosity, nourished by humor, and “loaded with promises and commitments” that we may or may not want or keep.

 
For a parent or to be parent:
 

It’s devastating for a child to hear one parent speak ill of the other. In fact, so much so that the researchers found it was less psychologically damaging if a parent said directly to the child You are a worthless piece of shit than it was for a parent to say Your mother/father is a worthless piece of shit.

 
For those who are on verge of break-up
 

You aren’t torn. You’re only just afraid. You no longer wish to be in a relationship with your lover even though he’s a great guy. Fear of being alone is not a good reason to stay. Leaving this man you’ve been with for six years won’t be easy, but you’ll be okay and so will he. The end of your relationship with him will likely also mark the end of an era of your life. In moving into this next era there are going to be things you lose and things you gain.Trust yourself. It’s Sugar’s golden rule. Trusting yourself means living out what you already know to be true.

 
For those dealing with fear
 

It will also be a little bit scary, the way it always is when we’re brave enough to touch the rawest, realest truths. When we have the guts to look directly into the mirror and say Mary Worth thirteen times without pause and see—thrillingly, terrifyingly—that it was never her we had to fear. It was always only us.

 
For those who want to pursue passion
 

It’s hard to go. It’s scary and lonely and your bandmates will have a fit and half the time you’ll be wondering why the hell you’re in Cincinnati or Austin or North Dakota or Mongolia or wherever your melodious little finger-plucking heinie takes you. There will be boondoggles and discombobulated days, freaked-out nights and metaphorical flat tires. But it will be soul-smashingly beautiful, Solo. It will open up your life.

 
For those who are repenting mistakes
 

That life is long, that people both change and remain the same, that every last one of us will need to fuck up and be forgiven, that we’re all just walking and walking and walking and trying to find our way, that all roads lead eventually to the mountaintop.

 
For women
 

Doing what one wants to do because one wants to do it is hard for a lot of people, but I think it’s particularly hard for women.

 
She has something for everyone. Sweet advice. Not so sweet advice. Tough ones. But ultimately right ones.
 
Thanks Cheryl for the ‘Tiny beautiful things’. It was definitely beautiful reading it. If you want to read it, you can purchase Print Copy or Kindle  
 
What book moved you? Share it with us in the comments section.
 
Happy knowing Tiny Beautiful things!
 

Mental Math: Tricks to become a Human Calculator

Author : Abhishek VR
Print Copy | Kindle
 
Do you wish to do math faster?
 
You may be a student or a working professional. It doesn’t matter who you are. It doesn’t matter what age you are too. All that matters is your wish to change the way you do basic calculations.
 
I have prepared for multiple competitive exams but I always did math the difficult way. I did not know that there were shortcuts to addition too.
 
Once I started teaching, I taught all sorts of short cuts too but not for basics like addition. After reading this book, I realized that the way maths is taught in schools is a long way. And just by doing calculations from left to right instead of right to left is the secret behind improving the speed.
 
I was surprised and taken aback. I immediately started teaching my students shortcut for addition too. They were equally surprised and happy. It is not just my speed but also my students speed increased with this.
 
I have been talking only about addition but there are shortcuts for subtraction, multiplication and division too.
 
Why should you buy this book?
 

  • Each technique has been explained in detail
  • Layman can also become good at math
  • There are practise exercises for each technique along with answers

 
Why should you not buy this book?
 

  • Any skill needs practise. If you don’t want to practise what you learn, don’t buy it
  • If you want to read it as a novel and expect changes to happen with it

 
In case, you don’t want to read a book but want guidance to clear the doubts, you can check out the course by same author too.
 
Happy becoming the best at Math!
 

Zen in the art of writing – Book Review

Author: Ray Bradbury
Print Copy | Kindle
 
This is the first book I started in the series of books I collected to improve my writing skills. I have been frantically searching in the book for advice on how to write better but I hardly found any. Probably I found one in a chapter. I felt I was not the intelligent to understand the meaning which is being conveyed in between the words.
 
His style of writing is great. It is simple and entertaining. That is a style which I want to learn. But writing something so crisply is definitely an art. One thing which has been iterated over and over in the book is keep writing. Just keep writing till you get good at it. Whatever he has written is about the life we lead daily. He wrote about things which were close to his heart, which happened in his surroundings, in his family and for his friends. There were times when I wanted to just stop reading the book because the same thing has been mentioned over and over. But then I wanted to become intelligent enough to appreciate the book.
 
A writer like him can’t get famous by writing so incoherently. There might be something in what he has written which is really great. I was in search of that.
 
I do the same as he does. I write down the dreams I had last night before I forget. I have been making note of every small thing I think is worth writing about. Being a writer is not easy. It needs constant work. And there is immeasurable joy in it.
 
As I kept questioning myself what was the message being conveyed I found that he was asking us to write fiction which will make the readers think. It will give them ideas and make them feel hooked to the book. We need to write in such a way that it is a story which everyone wants to read. But in the end it should show how a problem can be solved too. If a piece of writing is written well, it improves the speed of the reader too. I usually take a lot of time to read a page. But this one, I was able to read at half the speed.
 
As I read further, I digged another gold mine where he explicitly mentions that editing is like cutting the patient without killing him. He tells that even though it is is difficult to do multiple cuttings that is what makes the writing better. If you are saying something in 6 sentences can the same be told in 2 sentences? It is an attitude every writer should develop. But it just not in writing. But it is an advise which will be useful everywhere.
 
He spoke about why you should not just see only excellent films. He watched every film out there. Excellent films are mysterious. It is the bad films which teach us what not to do. A few weeks back I bought a book as I was curious about a topic. After reading a few chapters, I thought I can write better than that author. I regretted the money I spent on it. But now I am glad that I know what kind of a writer I should not be.
 
There are so many words which I don’t know in this book. After a certain point I felt tired of searching for the meanings of the word as it was coming in between my comprehension.
 
Finally comes the chapter name zen in the art of writing. There he tells 3 points – work, relaxation, don’t think.
 

Quotes:

 

And what, you ask, does writing teach us? First and foremost, it reminds us that we are alive and that it is a gift and a privilege, not a right.

 

Remember that pianist who said that if he did not practice every day he would know, if he did not practice for two days, the critics would know, after three days, his audiences would know.

 

It is the personal observation, the odd fancy, the strange conceit, that pays off.

 

Read poetry every day of your life. Because in order to convince your reader that he is there, you must assault each of his senses, in turn, with color, sound, taste, and texture. 

 

Book mentioned:
  • Becoming a writer by Dorothea brande

 
Happy reading zen!

Grit- The Power of Passion and Perseverance

Grit- The Power of Passion and Perseverance
Author – Angela Duckworth
Print Copy | E-Book
 
I wish I read this book two years back. No one would have changed their career stream as many times as I did. My mom told me a lot of times to stabilize. I was foolish. I never listened to her. It took me this book to get that message pushed into my head.
 
One universal doubt has been answered in this book- “Should I pursue my passion or  what I am good at?
 
The answer is surprising. You can pursue either of them. It doesn’t really matter at all. You know what matters. Showing up. Showing up at your passion/ job which you are good at no matter what and sticking with it till the end. Passion evaporates quickly. It is the deliberate practise which differentiates normal people from the successful.
 
If you have a lot of goals and can’t decide which one to pursue she suggests that you write down all of them. Rank them. Stick to top 3 and forget the remaining. Now pursue these with grit.
 
The author also talks about how she inculcates grit in her daughter. I also want to do it as a family ritual to spend some time daily for grit.
 
The book overall is one hell of a motivation book where everything has been explained with real life stories from various realms. It is about those who saw the light at the end of the tunnel just because they were practising it day after day.
 
If you want to understand that grit really works in life, this is the book you need to go to.
 

My favourite quotes:

 
It isn’t suffering that leads to hopelessness. It’s suffering you think you can’t control.

 

Without effort, your talent is nothing more than unmet potential. Without effort, your skill is nothing more than what you could have done but didn’t.

 

as much as talent counts, effort counts twice.

 

Enthusiasm is common. Endurance is rare.

Happy reading Grit and becoming gritty!

TED Talks – The official TED guide to public speaking

TED Talks – The official TED guide to public speaking
Print Copy
I am not going to give a public speech any time soon. I was just curious on what goes into the preparation of those speakers who give amazing talks.You will be surprised if I tell you that you should read it immediately. Even though the book is meant for public speaking, if you follow the techniques mentioned in the book for daily conversations, your life will change dramatically.
 
One night when I was reading this book, I had an eureka moment. I just realized that there are very few rules which we need to learn in life. Whatever might be your profession, whatever your life goals are, you need to apply the same rules based on the scenario.
 
For example, this book talks about public speaking. But what is the purpose of a public speech? It is to plant the seed of your idea in the mind of audience. What do I do when I write? I want to motivate you to take action on your life goals. Is goal of public speaking any different from writing? Leave about writing. What do you do when you are conversing? You are trying to make the other person agree with your views.
 
Ultimately, we all want to be heard and liked while we make a difference in the life of the other person.
 
The first half of the book talks only about this. I felt mesmerized and felt it to be unputdownable.
 
But after a while, it got boring when he talked about the font to be used and other minute things.
After bearing through that section, it again got interesting and became unputdownable.
 

Key Points

 

  • You can only use the tools that your audience has access to
  • Common traps
    • Don’t give a sales pitch – be a giver and not a taker
    • Don’t under prepare
    • Don’t boast about organization
    • Don’t perform inspiration- it has to be earned.
  • The through line
    • What is the precise idea you want to build in your audience
    • What is their take away
    • Overstuffed equals under explained
    • Show why it matters . . . what’s the question you’re trying to answer, the problem you’re trying to solve, the experience you’re trying to share
    • Flesh out each point you make with real examples, stories, facts
    • Great writing is all about the power of the deleted word.” It’s true of speaking too.

 

Five core tools that speakers use
  1. Connection
  2. Narration
  3. Explanation
  4. Persuasion
  5. Revelation

1.Connection- get Personal

  • MAKE EYE CONTACT, RIGHT FROM THE START
    • Brown strongly recommends that you don’t share parts of yourself that you haven’t yet worked through
    • Humor hacks away the main resistance to listening to a talk.
  • PARK YOUR EGO
    • Self-deprecation, in the right hands, is a beautiful thing

2. Narration -Tell a story

  • Tales of failure, awkwardness, misfortune, danger, or disaster, told authentically, are often the moment when listeners shift from plain vanilla interest to deep engagement.

3.Explanation – From Explanation to Excitement

  • Ask people if something is not clear in draft version
  • Do a jargon check

4.Persuasion – Reason can change minds forever

  • Persuasion means convincing an audience that the way they currently see the world isn’t quite right. And that means taking down the parts that aren’t working, as well as rebuilding something better

5.Revelation- Take my breath away

  • It is ok to be silent
  • Let the visuals do the talk

 

Ted Talks/ Ted speakers mentioned in the book:

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    • Sophie Scott on laughter
    • Ken Robinson
    • Ron Gutman gave a TED Talk on smile
    • Sherwin nuland
    • Hans Rosling (revelatory animated charts),
    • David Deutsch (outside-the-box scientific thinking)
    • Nancy Kanwisher (accessible neuroscience
    • David Christian (history on a grand canvas).
    • Eat, Pray, Love
    • Mysteries of the Unseen World
    • Ross Lovegrove’s engaging walk through his nature-inspired design projects
    • David McCandless
    • George Monbiot
    • Julian Treasure -“How to speak so that people want to listen
    • Kelly McGonigal
    • Jon Ronson
    • Amy Cuddy
    • Jill Bolte Taylor
    • Neri Oxman
    • Woody Norris
    • Steve Schklair
    • Luca Turin
    • Roman Mars.
    • Mark ronson
    • Interview – Elon musk, bill gates
    • Sarah Kay
    • Clint Smith
    • Malcolm London
    • Suheir Hammad
    • Shane Koyczan
    • Rives
    • Billy Collins
    • Shane Koyczan’s
    • LESSIG
    • Beverly and Dereck Joubert
    • Photographer Frans Lanting
    • Hugh Herr

 
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