3 Favourite Novels of Bill Gates will make you rethink about life

 
More than a book reader, I am a book collector. My week does not pass without checking book recommendations. I developed this obsession for the fear of missing out on the good books. Also reading the recommendations by other writers, it gives me a confidence that the books I am reading are going to help me in life.
 
During one such hunt of mine, I came across the list of favourite books of Bill Gates. I was surprised that a person like Bill Gates spends his time on reading novels which are usually meant to lose yourself in a fantasy world when the real world is full of problems. The only times I ever finished a novel by reading it over night was for thrillers. Here I was reading novels I don’t even know which genre they belong to without taking a break. No doubt they were worth the time of Bill Gates.
 
So what are they?
 

1.Hyperbole and a Half


By Allie Brosh
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I did not know that human emotions can be narrated in a funny way until I read this book. I could relate to almost all the irrational things mentioned in this book. I did all of them at different points of my life. Yeah! I was foolish just like her. Everyone goes through the bad. But the way you narrate, the way you perceive it makes all the difference. I can look at my past behaviour and hate myself for being so lame. But she looked at herself with a lighter heart and made her readers laugh till their stomachs hurt. Everyone who saw me read the book thought that I was hysteric. To summarise the book in a sentence, it is a book which touches upon the deep aspects of human behaviour and even tells you how to correct them. It is just that you should not read it superficially but look at the deeper meaning the author wants to convey.
 

2.The Rosie Project: A Novel by Graeme Simsion


By Graeme Simsion
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Don’t read the plot before you read the book. It is a book which needs to be read with an open mind. If you are an introvert who is working on improving life quality, you will relate to it totally. The author shows that you can become an expert in anything just by being curious and learning the details of it. It reminded me the way I pour through books and learn everything by reading. Self-learning is a skill which is in demand in the current world.
 

3.The Rosie Effect: A Novel by Graeme Simsion


By Graeme Simsion
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It is the continuation of the previous book. This book tells you about the practicalities of life. It shows you how difficult  it is to lead a perfect family life with your organised schedule. It tells you how knowing psychology and thinking from others perspective is the easiest way to solve problems in life. Insecurities in life will only make life harder and not easier.
 
Both the books by Graeme Simsion will make you laugh hard at life. I am eagerly waiting for the next book in this series.
 
Which novel made you rethink about life? I want to read many more such books. Do let me know in the comments section.
 
Happy reading!
 

Book Review: Even Happier

Who does not want to be more happy?
As I was searching for more books on happiness, I stumbled upon this. I have been doing research on happiness for a year now but this was the first time I came across a book which has lots of exercises in it.
I was excited to see the introduction of book and expected a lot of fun. Even though not all exercises are clear and doable, some of them are. I have already tried a few which are mentioned and there are a few which are totally new and some of them are just repetition in different forms.
If you are a newbie, and has no idea about how happiness works, you will not gain much from the book. But if you are already perfect with the basics, it is a good book to practise on being happy to the fullest. The interesting thing about this book is it has a quote for every chapter. Even though some of the quotes don’t produce any effect, overall the quotes make you take action.
The chapters are very short. For some of the chapters, the explanation and terms mentioned have cleared a lot of my doubts. Even though this book is mentioned at week level, you can read it all at once and make notes and plan on the exercises you want to do for the year or lifetime.
Some of the chapters are vaguely related to happiness. But they still provide some value.
This book has been written for adults. If you are still a student, some of the chapters will not be relevant for you.
 
Important Lessons learnt from the book:

  • A few activities provide joy in the present. A few in the future. But focus on those which give joy both in the present and in the future
  • In order to cultivate genuine intimacy,the focus in a relationship has to shift from the desire to be validated to the desire to be known
  • The best way to increase self esteem is increase our failure coping mechanism
  • Little or no conflict within a relationship indicates that the partners are not dealing with important issues and differences.
  • Make children struggle so that they don’t pay for their luxury
  • Rat racers feel more despair after achieving material success because there is nothing left for them to pursue
  • People perceive their work in three ways: job, career and a calling. Make yours a calling

 
Why should you read this book?
Just like how we have practicals in college, this book is like practicals in life. If you want to have some fun practising, you should go for it.
 
Top 10 quotes from the book:
“What you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it. Opportunities, relationships, even
money flowed my way when I learned to be grateful no matter what happened in my life.”
 
“True happiness involves some emotional discomfort and difficult experiences, which some self-help books and psychiatric medication attempt to circumvent.”
 
“What man actually needs is not a tensionless state but rather the striving and struggling for some goal worthy of him. – Viktor Frankl
 
“Failure meant a stripping away of the inessential. . . . I was set free, because my greatest fear had already been
realized, and I was still alive, and I still had a daughter whom I adored, and I had an old typewriter and a big
idea. And so rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. . . . Failure gave me an inner
security that I had never attained by passing examinations. Failure taught me things about myself that I could
have learned no other way. I discovered that I had a strong will, and more discipline than I had suspected; I
also found out that I had friends whose value was truly above rubies. . . . The knowledge that you have emerged
wiser and stronger from setbacks means that you are, ever after, secure in your ability to survive. You will
never truly know yourself, or the strength of your relationships, until both have been tested by adversity.” – J.K Rowling
 
“To dare is to lose one’s footing momentarily. Not to dare, is to lose oneself.” —Søren Kierkegaard
 
“The best way you can predict your future is to create it.” —Stephen Covey
 
“How we spend our days is how we spend our lives.” —Annie Dillard
 
“The great end of life is not knowledge but action.”—Thomas Huxley
 
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?” -Marianne Williamson
 
“Life would be infinitely happier if we could only be born at the age of eighty and gradually approach eighteen.” —Mark Twain
 
Top 5 Action Points:
 

  1. Meaning exercise -Note down all the activities in the day but do only the ones you find meaning
  2. Healing exercise – Write a forgiving letter to people who have hurt you
  3. Do one kind act per week
  4. Take a walk in the nature
  5. Advice from Your Inner Sage – Go forward in time and write a letter to your current self

 
Books mentioned in the book:
 

  • The Power of Full
  • Engagement, Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz
  • Passionate Marriage
  • Radical Honesty, Brad Blanton
  • Return to Love, Marianne Williamson

 
Happy being more happier !
 

Book Review – The Miracle Morning

Do you think there can be a magic pill to help you become better instantly?
This book gives you that ‘Life SAVERS’.


The key takeaway from the book is about SAVERS and nothing miraculous about the morning. Even though most of the activities he mentioned are better done in the morning, you can still do them when you find time in the day or before sleeping.


The author wrote a lot of pages and chapters in the introduction about the greatness of his mantra. It was annoying and not impressive. I was just waiting for the actual content to start. I didn’t need confirmation on how many people it worked. I just wanted to know how to make it work on me.


For the miracle morning to happen, he suggests to wake up with different types of alarms. I strongly disagree with waking up on force. I felt annoyed first thing in the morning today because of the alarm I had to set to leave home early. Every sleep has a cycle. I am better off waking up late than waking up for an alarm unless it is important.


SAVERS – stands for Silence, Affirmation, Visualisation, Exercise, Reading and Scribing.


I don’t do the first three but I do the last three. It has excellent practical suggestions on how to do affirmations and visualisations.That is the one thing for which I felt the book was worth reading.


And before concluding, he suggested to take feedback from people who knew you. I have done that a few times in my life before. And I can assure you that it is really helpful and constructive.


There were a lot of inspiring quotes and references in the book.


A few of my favourite quotes:


  • If you are committed you will always find a way to succeed.


  • It is not about blaming but about responsibility.


  • To make profound changes in your life, you need either inspiration or desperation


  • Your level of success, will rarely exceed your level of personal development, because success is something you attract by the person you become


  • Every time you choose to do the easy thing, instead of the right thing, you are shaping your identity becoming the type of person who does what’s easy, rather than what’s right.


  • Average of 5 people -This is true in every area—success, health, happiness weight, income.


  • Constantly improve your circle of influence


  • Think about the kind of negative energy that surrounds you when you begin your day with resistance


  • An extraordinary life is all about daily, continuous improvements in the areas that matter most. —ROBIN SHARMA


  • When you see people who are excelling in an area that you’re not, does it seem like they’ve got it all figured out—like they must know something that you don’t know, because if you knew it, then you’d be excelling in that area too


  • Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right either way.


  • The wise begin with whys.


  • Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others


  • If you don’t make time for exercise, you’ll probably  have to make time for illness. —ROBIN SHARMA


  • A person who won’t read has no advantage  over one who can’t read. —MARK TWAIN


  • Whose fault is it that it’s boring? And whose responsibility is it to make it fun again


  • An extraordinary life is all about daily, continuous improvements in the areas that matter most.—ROBIN SHARMA


  • Let Today Be The Day You Give Up Who You’ve Been For Who You Can Become


  • Every day, think as you wake up, ‘Today I am fortunate to have woken up, I am alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others. I am going to benefit others as much as I can.’ —DALAI LAMA


Action points:


  • personal development audio from Jim Rohn
  • Self-confidence affirmation from Think and Grow Rich


Sites mentioned:



Books mentioned:
 
  • Taking Life Head On:  How To Love the Life You Have While You Create the Life of Your Dreams
  • Secrets of the Millionaire Mind
  • What Got You Here Won’t Get You There by Marshal Goldsmith
  • Marianne Williamson’s bestselling book, A Return To Love
  • The secret
  • Eat That Frog
  • Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey
  • The Five Love Languages by Gary D. Chapman
  • The SoulMate Experience by Jo Dunn
  • The Seven Principles For Making a Marriage Work by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver

Book Review : Creative Visualization

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Do you believe in God?
Do you believe in a higher power?
Do you believe that universe has infinite energy?


I believe that there is some power. But I don’t have an opinion on how it works.


I have been reading two books and both books mentioned about the power of visualization. Then I asked a friend, who once told about visualization, if it really works. Friend said, “ Whatever success I have had so far in my life is solely through visualization”. Then I thought “Whoa! It worked for so many people. What is wrong in giving it a try?”


I went ahead and googled best books on visualization. Except for this book on creative visualization, rest of the books were graphical visualization books. I quickly got the book and started reading. I made a promise to myself that I will not read it like a novel but go from one step to other by doing exercises. For the first few pages, I did that way. I wrote a list for which I need affirmations. And I wrote an affirmation for each of them. And I started reading affirmations whenever I got free time.


But then I broke my promise. I finished reading the entire book without checking results after each chapter. But now, I have a better picture on visualization. I will implement technique after technique and see which one has a better impact on me. I am eagerly looking forward to writing a post on how visualization helped me become a better person.


The book not only talks about visualization but also on affirmations and meditation. It reaffirmed a few of my assumptions on how the universe works. I know a few ‘doctors’ who heal patients through their prayers. Even though people call it pseudo science, I think that they have a connection with a higher power which will help them heal others. The book also says that we have the power to heal others.

My grandmother writes ‘Ram koti’. It is a book which has boxes where you can write ‘Sri Rama’, the name of a Hindu god, a crore times. Even though I don’t believe that Sri Rama will come and rescue me if I do that, I used to always wonder if I can achieve my dreams by repeatedly writing about them. And this author confirmed that writing affirmations by feeling about them definitely helps.


Did you know that if you do affirmations with a partner you will start liking your partner more? Can you believe that you can make yourself your guide by using a visualization technique?


Even though you don’t believe in any of the above, you should start writing affirmations and start visualizing your dreams. A lot of people achieved theirs through this. So can I and so can you. Why wait till I write about my experience?


Tell yourself now, “ I am awesome. I am healthy and attractive. I am so successful and happy in life.”


There you said your first affirmation. Write many more. Write them specific to you. And keep chanting them like mantras or sing them like songs.


Visualize now that you are following visualization techniques daily.


It might take time to see life changing results for a beginner but it is worth trying!


Happy visualization!

Book Review: Big Magic

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Do you believe in magic?
Not the magician’s tricks. Real magic?
I believe.


If you read this book and can relate to the story line, you will also start believing in marriage.


Don’t read this book if you are looking for a step by step solution to improve creativity. But read it to appreciate creativity for its sake. Even though it is a non-fiction book, you will not doze off anywhere. The first half of it feels unputdownable. But as you go inside it becomes boring a little. Overall, it is an interesting and entertaining read.


Some of the topics which she touched in the book are amazing. Even though she wrote a book on creativity, if you read between the lines, there are a lot of gems. I felt impressed from the first few pages itself. The only thing the author had consistently till she was 15 was fear. And guess why she stopped feeling afraid after that? She was just tired of being afraid. I found that amazing. You don’t need a motivation book, you don’t need a therapy, you don’t need a support. All you need is to get bored with being that.


In another chapter, she talks about how an idea comes to you and gets into a contract with you. I don’t know if the story she has written about an idea is true, but that brought a big smile to my face. Oh! Ideas are living beings which leave you if you ignore them. That is what I feel when my ideas share the same contracts with others or do with me the same contracts as they did with others. Mr/ Ms. Idea, “I don’t want to share you with anyone ok! You are mine. You are going to sign a contract only with me and not with anyone else. I want to own you, abuse you, ignore you and then glorify you.” This is what I am going to tell Idea when it comes to me.  


As you read further, you come across another interesting concept on going on a date with an idea. Did you ever think of an idea as your date? She does. She dresses up well and flirts with the idea so that she can start writing. Here, she indirectly conveys that being clean and neat increases your productivity and focus levels.


In later chapters, she removes the misconceptions on creativity which a lot of people hold. A lot of top writers also held misconceptions and her view helped them get over the myths.


Overall, it was a great read. I fell in love with her style of writing and downloaded other books written by her.


Action points

  • Daring greatly by brene brown
  • Do something creative daily


The concepts mentioned in the book apply to all forms of art and not just writing.


Happy being creative!


Book Review – Stumbling on Happiness

Did I stumble on happiness after reading the book?

The author mentions in the beginning of the book that this book is not a guide for how to be more happy in life. But when I am writing a review of this book after a year, I can tell you that all other books on happiness tell you what to do and what not to do. This is the only book which talks about how brain works when it comes to happiness. You cannot find clearly laid out guidelines in the book on happiness but if you can connect the message to your own life, you will get insights which can change your life.
 
After reading this book, I started mood tracker and wrote my diary as and when I felt an emotion. Because the way I look at my emotion after a certain time lag distorts my view of it. I also started sticking to the same variety but changing the gap between two times I do the same task to increase my joy. Because, variety decreases the happiness levels when time difference is a lot. When you read the book, you will find your own ways to increase happiness in your life.


A few nuggets from the book:

 
Experience stretching hypothesis
 
Once we have experience we can’t exclude them and look at the world.People are wrong when they talk about the past because they are viewing it based on present experience but based on past experience they were correct then.
 
An experience which once caused pleasure no longer does.We become outsiders to our own experiences
What are you feeling inside?
 
People don’t know what they are feeling inside. They can be mistaken about what they feel inside. This happens because most critical functions of brain were designed first and later the other parts were added. Brain first reacts and then thinks about what the object is


Why do you choose the wrong future?
 
We choose the wrong future because we imagine out of nothing.Brain does not store the entire experience in detail. It just stores the emotion related to that. The act of remembering just fills the details. You can try this by reading a set of words and try recalling them. You will realise that you just remember the theme. Because brain remembers the gist of the words and not just the words. Blind spot in eye makes the brain create a scene based on what it sees around the blind spot. Brain creates an image out of its imagination and not just what is actually there. So when we imagine a future,it happens in the blind spot of eye.


Why you should not do grocery shopping on a full stomach or empty stomach?


When you go with a full stomach, brain tricks you that you have enough now and makes your requirement to be less. This is called as prefeeling.It stimulates the event before hand and makes you predict the future. But prefeeling can’t be trusted because brain has reality first policy. We can’t feel hunger while we feel full.


You will discover more such interesting stories in the book.
Happy stumbling on Happiness!

Book Review – The Happiness Project

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The book, as the name suggests, was a project took up by Gretchen Rubin, the author, to increase happiness in her life. I came across this book because even I was working on a similar project in my life and I wanted all possible guidance. I started this book almost a year ago but it took me a lot of time to complete because it was more like a guide than a read it over night book.


A lot of people asked me if I was depressed when I told them about the books I was reading and the courses I was doing on happiness. As the author rightly states, “Opposite of happiness is unhappiness and not depression”. You can be happy in life but there is still a lot of scope to improve your happiness. That was what author’s aim was too.


Person’s basic level of happiness doesn’t fluctuate much. But some people are more naturally melancholic. It depends on Genetics 50%, Life circumstances 20-10% and remaining is actions.


The author divided her project into 12 parts. A few goals for each month. All through the journey, there were times she could not keep with her goals. But she was not too hard on herself because that ruins the happiness.


At the end of 12 months, a lot of people questioned her if her happiness project was a success. She simply replied that “ I feel happier. Feeling happier itself means that I am happier”. Even though she did not measure her happiness using a mood tracker, she was happier. Her changed habits made her home more happy. This book is a perfect example of how big things can be achieved by changing a few small things in life.


I liked the book because I was similar to the author in a few things. I understood what were the things I needed to change to feel more happy. Before I came to a few chapters, I had already been doing what the author suggested. I felt confident that I was working on the right projects.


Action points


  • Books
    • Wise blood
    • The Happiness Hypothesis
    • Plan B
    • biographies of Tolstoy
    • Lesley Lewis’s The Private Life
    • William Makepeace Thackeray’s Vanity Fair,
    • Charlotte Yonge’s The Heir of Redclyffe
    • Laura Ingalls Wilder
    • Power Money Fame Sex
    • Profane Waste
    • Dalai Lama’s The Art of Happines
  • My true rules – I have written a draft version of it. But it will require some iterations to get the right version of it.
  • Food tracker: I tried it for a month previously. I will want to do it from today again.
  • Write a novel in a month: It is tough. And I am not a good writer. But I want to try it with 500 words a day next month.
  • Remove clutter: You can take guidance from this article and remove clutter from your life


If you want to know that everyone is imperfect and can still be happy and improve the amount of happiness too, then this book is for you. You will be able to relate to a lot of areas in your life. Your happiness project might be totally different but the book definitely tickles your creativity mind.


Happy working on your happiness project!

Book review – The gifts of Imperfection

By Brene Brown
We are all imperfect. We cover those imperfections and struggle towards being perfect everyday.
 
“ I need to look beautiful to feel loved”
“ I should be a billionaire to be worthy of love”
 
Whatever might be your version of that statement, you struggle with this. You are under the assumption that you need to be someone to be loved. The author calls this emotion as shame. Yeah! Even I was shocked to know that aiming for perfection and not loving what you already are is shame.


The author talks about whole- hearted living. She talks about why we should not be too hard on ourselves and how we can love ourselves for we are already.


After a long time, this was a book which kept me up at night. I was so surprised and intrigued for what was to come in the next chapters of the book. It helped me understand myself a little better. It showed me the path I needed to walk on. I don’t know the right adjectives to describe what I felt the night I could not go back to sleep.


I don’t know if the book actually talks about imperfections. But the book definitely gives you the definitions of a few emotions and reactions which you deal with daily but could never define the,m. The obscurity which was in my mind which I could not put down in words, have been defined by her.


A few favourite quotes:

“Owning our story and loving ourselves through the process is the bravest thing we will ever do.”
“It is tough to see a pattern and then unsee it.Humans are meaning making species.”
“Asking for what you need is one of the bravest things you will ever do.”
“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
“The only true currency in this bankrupt world is what you share with someone else when you’re uncool.”
“Make a list of the work that inspires you. Don’t be practical. Don’t think about making a living; think about doing something you love.”

Action Points:

 
As I discussed in my 30-day challenge of reading books, for every book I create an action list. Here is mine:
 
– Do some form of art daily
– Down time
– Dance daily for 5 minutes
– Sing a song
– Find a list of videos which can make me laugh
– Learn more about grounded theory
– Visit the website www.brenebrown.com

Books to read:

 
The following are a few books mentioned in this book which might interest you if you like this book.
 
-Play- How it shapes the brain, opens imagination and invigorates the soul
-Daniel pink – a whole new mind
-One person / multiple careers : new model for work life success
You can get the Print Copy here
Happy reading!



12 Books which made me a better person

Books leave an imprint on our lives. When you don’t have direct access to mentors, they take up that role and do a wonderful job. The following books have been a mentor for me:
 
1) Thinking fast and slow:

By Daniel Kahneman

It exposes you to all the cognitive biases. Even though you think you are right about a decision, you don’t realise that it is the cognitive bias which is making you go for it. You end up spending more when you swipe credit card than in cash. You tend to buy an item on discount because of anchoring effect. You don’t stop investing even if you are losing because of sunken cost fallacy. And there are many more biases which you are not aware of.

2)Last lecture:


This is one such book which I did not want it to end. I liked the amazing attitude of the author and the life lessons he has written. If you are not as awesome as he is, you will learn from him. If you are already awesome, you will love yourself more.

3)Never split the difference:


If not for this book, I would have never understood that I was about to fall into a negotiation trap. You might also save yourself from a trap some time in the future if you understand the basics of negotiation.

4)Art of learning:


College is not just meant to mug up the subject and present it during tests. Learning should be deep and ever lasting. Josh Waitzkin writes about what learning is all about through his stories on learning chess. It made me feel nostalgic.

5)How to win friends and influence people:


It is never late to start making friends. I read this book in the first year of my college. It helped a lot in socializing.

6)Grit:


You are in the eternal conflict of pursuing things you are good at versus passion. This book gives you clarity on what really matters in the long term.

7)The one thing:


There might be 100 things you want to do in life. This book tells you that one thing if done in right way can become a substitute for the remaining 99.
8)13 things mentally strong people don’t do:


You might be the smartest person in your circle, but if you are not mentally strong. you will not be able to reap the benefits of your smartness.

9)Power of habit:


You are a product of your habits. This book tells you the science behind breaking and making a habit.

10)The art of thinking clearly:


In our daily decisions, we make a lot of cognitive mistakes. This book tells you which ones to avoid and which ones to stick with.

11)Reawaken the giant within:


This book makes you think about your values and how you can use them to live life to the fullest.

12)Fountain Head by Ayn Rand:
It gave me a totally different perspective about life. This book will make you think about yourself and ponder on life. Even though Ayn Rand is difficult to read, it is worth the efforts.
 
Happy reading!

Book Review: 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do

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Author: Amy Morin

It is one of the most useful books I ever read. I get a few questions on Quora on how to become mentally strong. But I never had clarity on it. I did not know what constitutes mental strength. When I observed people, I found a few kids who are mentally strong already and I noticed adults who have struggled all their life but are still mentally weak. So I knew somewhere that it had to do with attitude of adults towards their lives but that theory did not fit in when it came to kids. This book gave me clarity that mental strength comes naturally to a few and others can learn it too.

The author was not naturally blessed with mental strength. She had been hit by life over and again. That is when she learnt how to be mentally strong. If she could do it, it gave me confidence that I can do it too.

Before starting off with the 13 things to avoid, she mentions the common myths people have about mental strength. I cleared the misconceptions I had about mental strength.

Each chapter is structured in a perfect way to drive the point home. It starts with an example to set context. Then you find a list of characteristics of the person who possesses that bad habit. And then through examples, she explains why they are bad. Finally, she summarizes the solutions. If you think you don’t have enough time, just identify the bad habits with the help of first list and correct them using the concluding list of each chapter of the book.


13 things mentally strong people don’t do:

1.       They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves
2.      They don’t give away their power
3.      They don’t shy away from change
4.      They don’t focus on things they can’t control
5.      They don’t worry about pleasing everyone
6.      They don’t fear taking calculated risks
7.      They don’t dwell on the past
8.     They don’t make the same mistakes over and over
9.      They don’t resent other people’s success
10.  They don’t give up after the first failure
11.   They don’t fear alone time
12.  They don’t feel the world owes them anything
13.  They don’t expect immediate results

How to use this book?


You can give it a reading to understand what mental strength is all about. I had the misconception that mental strength was a rocket science and it is not possible for everyone to achieve the same. If you also have any such wrong notions, you will get clarity. At the start of each chapter, there is a list of characteristics mentioned to know if you are doing those mistakes. During the first reading itself, you can tick the bad habits you possess. After assessing yourself on the 13 habits, look at the one where you have maximum score. That is the habit you are going to target first. Now re-read that chapter and make a list of things which you can implement to be stronger. Follow those steps religiously for a month. There you are one step closer to being mentally strong. Do the same exercise for the remaining 12 habits too. In 13 months, you are mentally stronger than what you were before. In case you find yourself relapsing, repeat the exercise till it becomes a natural thing for you.

Happy becoming mentally stronger!