The one thing which is stopping you from achieving your dreams

Riya: “I want to open my painting gallery.”
Suma: “That’s great! When are you doing it?”
Riya: “”
Suma: “What are you thinking?”
Riya: “I don’t know when?”
Are you like Riya?
Why are you not pursuing your dreams?
I am sorry to ask you this question in the beginning of the post. Let’s keep that aside for now and have some fun.
 
Wanna do an interesting experiment today?
Ask 10 friends (not so close) of yours why they are not pursuing their dreams.
 
Their responses will be one among the below:
 
“I was brought up this way. No one in my family ever did something unconventional. We are comfortable and happy with what we do for living”
 
“You know how many responsibilities I have right! I have to pay all the bills, run the family. From where do I find time for my dreams?”
 
“I need to earn a million before I start a business”
 
“I am too old for it. I should have started it when I was young.”
 
“I am too young to get serious about life. Let me enjoy my youth”
 
“I don’t know what my passion is”
 
“I am still figuring out the right way to do it”
Do you think those are the real reasons why they are not pursuing their dreams?
No one will tell you the truth. All these are just excuses to cover up the reality.
 
It is not their fault either. Because they believe whatever they say to be the truth.
 
But the true reason is
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Fear.
 
They are afraid of the failure.
 
They are afraid of how people perceive them.
 
They are afraid of going broke.
 
They are afraid of the unknown.
 
That is the sole reason why they are not taking that step.
 
Are you like your friends? Do you feel the fear inside you? If you are numb, you will never even realise that you need to take action. Let out the fear now. It is okay to be afraid. 
 
Fear is natural. It is a human instinct. Brain produces fear to protect you. If not for fear, you can’t protect yourself from legitimate danger. But the fear in this case, is the fear of unknown. The fear can be overcome by learning about the unknown. You need to know what it takes to reach your goal. If you are reluctant to explore, you will never see a life beyond this. To reach somewhere where you have not been to before, you have to do something which you have never done before.
 
Move out of your comfort zone. It’s a cliché. But that is what is going to make the difference. Because your fears are irrational. 
 
If any of our fears is rational, then it means that you are taking high risk. I am not advocating high risk here. Just move out of that boundary you confined yourself in. 
Take one step ahead. Take 5 minutes out now and think about your dream. What is the smallest thing you can do every day which will move you a step closer to your dream? Isn’t it simple? If it doesn’t look simple, you are not thinking about the smallest step.
If you still feel the fear, validate your dreams. Research on the obvious pitfalls. Avoid them and move ahead.Experience how beautiful life is when you take a step towards your dream.
 
Don’t be afraid in pursuing your dreams unless you are doing something unethical. As long as what you are fighting for is for the good, move only forward. If you look backward, you will only be scared of falling down.
 
Whenever I am afraid in taking the next step in life, my mom and I have this conversation.
 
Mom: “What is the worst that is going to happen?
 
I:  “I will fail. I don’t want to fail.”
 
Mom: “How will you ever know that you will succeed or not without trying it?
 
I: “I am afraid of the unknown.”
 
Mom: “How will you  ever know the unknown and become wise if you avoid opportunities to learn?
 
I: “ Hmm…Yeah… True. I will try and see. I have nothing to lose. I only gain. I get an experience.”
I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear. -Nelson Mandela
  
Do this small exercise now. Save the below link in your google drive and start combating your fears.

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Go to this link. http://bit.ly/2nLhFjD

 



Click on the google drive button and to save it to your google drive. 
Now start filling in your fears and ways you will combat it.

People can get you all the resources to achieve your dreams but they can’t fight your fears for you. You have to fight your own battle. The only thing which keeps you strong in the times of obstacles is confidence in yourself.
Your brain will keep tricking you into fear. It is doing its duty. Don’t succumb to it. Fight them. Be a warrior, not a loser.
According to the Darwinian theory of natural selection, the strongest of the species survives. Don’t you want your fearless genes to be passed on to the next generations?

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What is stopping you from pursuing your dreams? How did you combat your fears? Let us know through comments section. I am waiting to hear them out.
Happy combating your fears !

Recipe for making resolutions come true

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It’s April already! Three months have passed in the new year. In the beginning of the year, I did not have any new year resolutions. Because too many resolutions for an entire year is just overwhelming. Hence I started off with monthly resolutions. I could not stick to them due to various unforeseen situations. I fell off the stairs and hurt myself. I was not able to exercise because of it. I don’t have a park or lot of trees in my area so I go for running along the beach. But on the days I wake up late, I have to inhale the smoke from the vehicles on the road. It took a toll on my health and developed acute dust allergy. So I had to drop running too. Reading newspaper was one of my goals. But I did not find any immediate benefits from it. So had to drop that idea. I started cooking in February, but then I was falling short of time in the morning to cook. It has been 45 days that I have done a piece of art since I had a new assignment to do. So my first three months are gone without accomplishing anything significant. 

You must also have had a lot of plans which went down the drain. It’s never too late. I want to be efficient in the coming months.I rewrote my monthly plans to make them more useful. Work along with me. I will make you achieve your dreams too. 

The following is my plan for the April:

Waking up early: 


I commute 3 hours daily. I feel tired by the time I reach home. The key to doing anything at all is waking up early. I don’t want to set any lofty goals for waking up early. All I want to do is wake up at 6 consistently. This is a definitely doable goal. This a keystone habit for the rest of the habits I want to develop.

Physical fitness:


I have been stuck at 20 push-ups since a very long time. My body is now used to this. So there is no growth. Habits are good, but when there is no improvement in the habit, it means they are almost dead. I want to push myself to 25 pushups to experience the growth.

My knee has not totally healed yet. It hurts when I put pressure on it. So I wanted to do a few new exercises which can be done without hurting the knee.

Meditation: 


I sit only for 10 minutes everyday for meditation. Those 10 minutes are also not totally distraction free. I want to increase it by 5 minutes and do 15 minutes meditation exercise daily.

Hobbies:


Reading:


 I have started reading a lot of books in the March but did not complete even one. The amount of time I have spent on reading books has reduced. I want to set pages target of 20 for everyday. It takes me around 30 minutes to read 20 pages. It might be a little difficult to do it but it is still worth the try.

Writing: 


For the first t
hree months of the year, I wanted to write 8 articles per month. I could not reach this target. Because I had a monthly target but no daily habits around it. I will spend 20 minutes in gathering the idea on the first day and for writing on the second day and editing and publishing on the third day. Even if I take breaks on a few days, I should be able to publish 8 articles in the next month. Another obstacle I have been facing is a lack of topics to write on. I will make a list of 12 topics on which I can write so that I don’t waste time in thinking what to write on.

Courses: 


I have enrolled for https://www.coursera.org/learn/mindshift. I will spend 15 minutes everyday to learn a lesson from this course.

Action points:


>Write down the 12 topics
>Search for the new exercises

The routine I want to establish for April takes: 

Activity Time (minutes)
Exercise 30
Meditation 15
Reading 40
Writing 20
Course 20

On the whole, it is going to take 2 hours. And extra time is one hour. I can definitely find an extra hour in my day to fit this routine.

What is your plan for the April?


~What is the one thing if you change will set the other dreams rolling? Waking up early? Giving up watching TV? What is it for you?
~ In what areas have you become stagnant in life? How can you improve it in the smallest possible way?
~ Any hobby which has been on mind for too long? Just start it off in the smallest possible way this month.


Take the help of this worksheet for it. Fill the prompts. Track your goals.

Comment on your plans and progress in the comments section.

Happy monthly planning!

I write a diary. What next?

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Have you written your diary today? If you have not written yet, read this and start writing your diary today.
If you have already been writing, I am happy for you. You are already enjoying the benefits of it. But are there more ways to benefit from it?
You don’t have to spend any extra time daily to enjoy these benefits. Just a little time once in a while will do. You need to just review your diary to unlock these benefits.
 

What is this review?

Have you heard about weekly targets? Quarterly reports? Yes, you are right. Those reports exist for companies.
 
Reviewing is also the same. You evaluate your life on a periodical basis – Weekly, Monthly, Quarterly and Yearly. Our lives are as important as the companies. We need to know how effectively we are living in the limited time on this earth.
 
Reviewing the diary and taking action on what you have written takes you to the next level. It’s not only about the goals. It is also the relief you get when you read how the difficult phase of your life has passed. It also makes you feel more aware of your life and helps in evaluating your important relations.
 
When I did my yearly review, it gave me immense confidence in myself that I have faced all the obstacles strongly. The good things of the year made me relive the memories once again. Inspite of a lot of bad days, I still made a lot of progress in life. If I had not reviewed my diary, I would have never known how much I have improved.
 

Will just reading the diary come under reviewing?

Reading just tells you how things went. But making notes tells you the actions you need to take for the betterment.
 

What should the notes look like?

I make my notes with the following subheadings: 
 
Good things:
 
> All those activities which you always wanted to do but have actually done this month
> Progress you made in this month in regular activities
> The list of bad habits you broke
Bad things:
 
> The activities in which you performed worse than usual
> The habits which you could not stick to
Neutral:
 
> What you did differently this time but nothing good or bad has come out of it yet
 
Memories:
 
> The events which you want to remember forever.
 
Emotions:
 
> The external things which evoke emotions in you
 
Action points:
 
>The next steps you want to take

The following is a snippet of my February review:

 
Good:
 
> Made quilling earrings
> Improved at work
> Started cooking my lunch
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Bad:
 
> Didn’t exercise much
> Published very few articles
 
Memories:
 
>Watched a beautiful sunrise
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Emotions:
 
> Happy: Travelling by train after a long time
 
Action Points:
 
> Make an exercise plan
 
This is just my way of reviewing. You can do it in your own way. Tell me in the comment section your ideas on reviewing.
 
What are you waiting for? Do your first review today.
 
Happy reviewing!

Why should you write a diary?

 
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Have you ever wanted someone to write about you?
Or have you ever wanted to write about yourself? 
Even if you haven’t, then writing a diary might still be for you. 
Somebody might just be able to learn something about your life (even if that somebody is you).
 
Writing a diary might not seem like the most fun thing to do. You might be worried about your privacy, you might not have the time, or you might think you live an uninteresting life and writing about it just makes it unproductive. 

Why should you start writing a diary?

         
          You can record your life: 
 
Not everyone is famous. But everyone is unique. Write whatever happened with you. You are the ever forming product of the events and your reactions to them

You can brainstorm: 
Stuck with a problem? Can’t share it with anyone? Your diary is ever ready to listen to you.
You can dump your feelings: 
 
No one wants to talk to you? You can dump all your feelings on it. It will not shoo you away. Nor will it ignore you. It will take all the pain and makes you feel lighter.
Your goal tracker:
 
Write down your goals. Pin that page on the top. Every time you visit it, it keeps reminding you of them.
Your health tracker: 
It has a reply for “When was the last time I was down with fever or cold?”
 Your mood tracker: 
How many times have you cried lately? Your brain might lie. But this will present the facts to you as they are. Nothing to lie. Nothing to feel ashamed of. Truth as it is. You can fix those mood swings.
Your writing skills improve: 
 
Do you struggle to express yourself? Over time, you will notice how easy it is to communicate. Your relations will improve along with your communication. But then you have to start writing first.
Your reflection:
A mirror flaunts only your outer beauty. A diary shows your inner beauty.
 
 
Are those reasons enough for you to try writing a diary?
Yeah! But I don’t know where to start.
 

How to start writing a diary?

 
Online/ Offline or Soft copy/ Hard copy:
 
Decide that first. A lot of people fret over privacy. I suggest Evernote or WordPress private blog for these writers. At the other end of spectrum are the writers who press on writing with pen on paper. You can go for a diary with lock or lock your diary in a safe place.
       
                
         Time of the day:
            
           A lot of them don’t write because they forget or feel tired at the end of the day. So decide when you want to write. Keep a reminder till it becomes a habit. The best way to write is whenever  you think you want to share something for yourself. Read the uses of it here.
 
Now that you have set the basics in place, you might be wondering what to write.

What to write?

 
What did you do today? 
 
It is the easiest diary prompt. At the end of the week, if you are doing the same thing every day, at least for the sake of writing something interesting in the diary you will want to change your routine.
 
Gratitude journal: 
 
Write down three things for which you are grateful for today. Easy to write. It also improves happiness in the longer run.
 
Goals: 
 
Once you are comfortable with the easy prompts, go a step ahead, discuss with diary your goals. Even ten years down the line it is going to tell you what goals you have achieved and what have remained as dreams.
 
Emotions: 
 
You are sensitive to your surroundings. At times you react in a way which you should not be actually reacting. You can trust your diary with that. It will not make you feel guilty. It will only tell you what to do next time.
 
You can write about a lot of other things too. Customize to suit yourself. Let me know what do you write about in your diary in the comments section.
 
 
Happy diary writing!

 

12 signs that you are wasting your life

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It is just one life so just enjoy it.
If you are really enjoying it in creating productive stuff, then good for you. But most of the time people confuse enjoying to whiling away time. They think gossiping all day or watching TV all the day is enjoyment. 
Why not say it is just one life make most of it?
Why do I have to work hard when I am anyway going to die some day?
Even the people who gave away a lot for the world knew that they are going to die someday. Why did they work hard?
I have only been failing all my life. What point in trying?
Did all the people who succeed, succeeded in the first attempt?
There are many more such excuses which people give when people are wasting away their life. Identify today if you have any of the below behaviors and then fix them.

1.You spend 100% of the time in planning


Ideally, you should spend 80% of the time in planning and 20% in executing.
But how do I know that I reached the 80% of planning?
If you want to write a book, if you are only deciding what to write on for more than 30 hours you have reached the 100% planning. Instead, if you had written in every hour of thinking, the topic you wanted to write on, and the titles of chapters and subtitles in chapters, even if you had taken 30 hours to still decide the book, it just comes under the 80% time in planning.
Start planning efficiently today to stop losing out time in life.

2.You have more than one addiction and consider it as a birth right to enjoy them


Smoking is not cool. Just because you can’t give it up, don’t term it as something which you should definitely enjoy. Accept the facts today before your addiction eats you up. Wake up from the slumber and give up your addictions. You will find life more beautiful than it ever appeared before.

3.You have grown in weight and nothing else over the years


When was the last time you made an attempt to learn something new? Is your intellectual level same as what it was last year?
It is time you start reading books, watching courses, try something new. Choose anything out there but just learn something.

4.You binge eat


It is not just you. Every person out there is stressed. You control stress by binge eating. And the most successful guy you know about deals with it by exercising and meditation.

5.You have long forgotten your childhood dreams


Remember that guy who wanted to be a pilot. Remember that guy who thought painting is just sufficient to keep him happy. What happened to him? You silenced him. You threatened him. You asked him to be an adult and forget the dreams. Allow him to come out now. Let him live his dreams. Where there is a will, there is a way. You can definitely make time for your dreams.

6.Your day is not complete without gossiping


It is one of the worst habits anyone can ever have. Yet you do it all the time and feel restless if you don’t. Read here why gossiping deteriorates your life. Get rid of it today and use that time productively.

7.You feel envy

Your life doesn’t improve by feeling envy. It only improves when you take action towards your dreams. Start pursuing flow activities today and become an inspiration for others.

8.You indulge in negativity

You spend way too much time in self-loathing. Negative self-talk is sufficient to pull you down in life. Change that today. Tie a rubber band to your wrist. Next time you catch yourself in the negative self-talk, pull the band and leave.

9.You don’t fix your problems

You spend too much time in complaining. Even if you fix, you fix them with Fevicol instead of fixing the bolts.

10.You only think about what others did not do for you

You want to be paid well, you want to be loved, you want respect, everyone wants them all. What is that you are giving the world back?

11.You constantly apologize for no mistake of yours

You need to apologize when there is a mistake of yours. And the apology should be clear and the mistake should not be repeated again. But if you just keep apologizing even if there is no mistake of yours, it shows that you don’t love yourself enough. Stop doing that do and give a proper apology letter if you made a genuine mistake.

12.You never went out of your city

You need not go on a world tour. Even if you just
go on a low-cost budget tour to a place in the outskirts of the city, it still counts. Even if that is not possible, go to the museum or must visit place in your city where you have not been to before. Anything different from routine will do. But go for that change and explore life beyond your four walls.
Happy realization and improving yourself!

6 Ways to become the best at whatever you are doing

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All of us aim to become better at whatever we are doing. How do we know we are becoming the best possible with our efforts towards it?

Consistent efforts:

 If something was too easy to get, it is below what you are capable of achieving. If something worthy was earned easily, you are going to lose it also easily. The thing which is going to last forever is what is earned with efforts. A rock does not become a soil in a day. It takes millions of years to become the fine soil with weathering. Nor can you become the best on the day you start. It requires consistent efforts. The compounded daily practice reaps the best out of your efforts. If there is no consistency in the practice, it takes a lot of time to renew the pace and efforts. So, work on it every day, even if it is just for a few minutes. I haven’t written the best article on the day I started writing. But I have been getting better as I write. I write at least 300 words every day. It helps me improve my writing skills. I didn’t know French at all a few months back. I have been taking a lesson each day and now Duolingo shows that I am 15% fluent in French. To become the best in whatever you do, you need consistent efforts.

Don’t give conscious instructions to yourself

It is good to have targets. But stressing yourself and concentrating too much on getting it right, is bad. It will give the opposite results. In the book, Inner game of tennis, the author mentions that we make mistakes because we are being hard on ourselves to be perfect. We already know how to be the best but since we are stressing ourselves to be that we make mistakes. I discover unique ways to teach when I go with a free mind. On the days, I want to teach in the best way possible, I stammer and make silly mistakes.

Being in the flow

For the task you are executing today, rate yourself on a scale of 1-10. Let’s say you are at level 5. Tomorrow when you are doing the same task, if you are trying to perform to reach level 7, you will give up unable to cope with it. If you still do level 5 only, you already did that yesterday. You should be doing level 5.1 tomorrow to become better than today. That is a little challenging and also pushes you to the next level.

Mastering the not so obvious stuff


Becoming better is easy. The initial learning curve is exponential. Once you become better, to become the best, it requires you to master what is not so obvious. If you are preparing for an exam, you might know the entire syllabus thoroughly. But the one who tops the exam is the one who knows how to present the content, how to concentrate in the exam hall amidst the outside noise, how to keep his mind calm when the question is twisted. The small things which the person with better skills can’t notice and what the best one notices, makes all the difference.

Reviewing


Everyone works. But the one who reviews his work and can be a self-critic becomes better. Not everyone succeeds the first time. But the one who reviews his failure has higher chances to move faster. Writing an article is easy. But reviewing it is tough. I can become the best only when I review it thoroughly.

Measuring


A measure is needed for whatever you do. When you measure you know the speed of progress. You can increase it only when you know where you are lagging behind. Have daily, weekly and monthly targets based on your measure. You are definitely becoming the best.  

What are you waiting for? Go ahead, implement the tips, and become the best.

Happy becoming the best !

When is the right time to write a journal?

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Did you ever think about writing a diary? You must have been an introvert if you did so. Not that extroverts should not think about it. But what happened then? Did you start writing? Were you scared of privacy? Did you think it was a waste of time? I am an introvert and diary is my best friend. Here is my story of diary writing.
When I was 12, I got inspired by a newspaper article and started writing a diary. I used to write about homework, teachers or parents, which I discontinued later. When I was 18, after a gap of 2 years, I again started writing. This time, it was about crushes and likings. I started treating diary as a friend whom I can trust with my secrets. Sometimes I used to even write about what areas I am good at or need an improvement. Then I made too many friends and writing a diary took a back seat. When I was 23, after a gap of 2 years, I started writing again. This was at a time when I moved back to stay with my family in a city where I had no friends, as a result, diary became my only friend. But I had privacy issues in writing down everything. It was then a friend introduced to me to an online journal. All these years, diary served the purpose of a friend or just a hobby. But now I consider it as one of the best habits I have ever developed.
I started with spending 30 minutes every night to think about the day. I used to write down what I did the entire day. Sometimes I write down my fears. And at times it acts as a friend to discuss the critical decisions I need to take about life. I wanted to track my emotions by writing them down. I used to make a note of the terrible mood swings I had during the day. I was expecting to see an improvement in my state of mind by doing this exercise. But I hardly saw any. I was a little disappointed.
Around that time, I came across ‘Stumbling upon happiness’ book. This book clearly pointed out the mistake I was doing. The author writes about how when we look back on how we felt is different from how we actually felt in that moment when the event occurred. That was when I understood the significance of live journal.
Now I write down the emotion as and when I feel it. If I feel a negative emotion, I make a note of the emotion, the cause of it, the reason behind my reaction and how I will behave in a similar situation next time. This helped me understand myself better. It makes you stay positive after every bad emotion. If I encounter a negative emotion in the early hours of the day, I tell myself that I finished my quota of negativity for the day. On the days I feel good in the first half of the day, I carry those best practices to the remaining day.
The following are a few other uses:
Become a less short tempered person:
Now when I get angry, my anger has vanished in a few seconds because I start thinking rationally and don’t feel any anger at the person or situation. I am no longer a short tempered person. I don’t say that I have become the best I can, but I can feel the difference. It helps me bring a control on my life rather than my life controlling me. It helped me in reducing the wavering of moods and extremities of emotions.
Task Making:
If I am in the middle of a task and think about a few other tasks I need to get done, instead of waiting to finish this task, if I just make a note of it, it frees up my working memory.
Health Irritants:
If I feel a pain in the stomach due to a certain food or if I sneeze because of a certain smell, remembering trivial points like this till the end of the day would be a waste of memory and there are higher chances of forgetting them. Instead if I note them down as and when it happens, I will have a log of the causes for my health issues.
Increase in Productivity:
I make a note of what tasks made me feel that I misused my time and where I have made the best use of my time. If I have been whiling away a lot of time, I will be extra careful for the remaining hours.
Some of you must be wondering that this is going to be an utter waste of time. If you have the habit of texting someone whole day, this comes under texting yourself the entire day. It is not only the relations in your life you need to handle but also yourself. I have not fully achieved it yet. But I am a better person than before and I am going to become the best of myself in the coming days. Try it out yourself and share those experiences here.
Happy journal writing !

Have a bad habit? Break it now!

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‘Bad habits’- All of us have them. Do we need to feel bad about them? May be yes, may be no. But it is a definite yes, if it is affecting your life. Even I had one such bad habit which was impairing my life. Below is my story on how I got over it.


 I was a WhatsApp addict. I used to reply impulsively. The addiction grew to a point where I started hallucinating the notification sound of WhatsApp message. I was checking for messages even if there was no notification, out of an assumption that WhatsApp must have stuck. I was losing control over my time. I used to feel depressed if I was not receiving any messages. I used to text around 10 people so that I can let the conversation flow with at least one of them. I needed to keep the dopamine rush flowing or else it drove me into loneliness. In short, my happiness was out of my control. But something different happened then, which turned my life.
Define the reason for giving up the habit:
 This is the most important step for any task. Know why you are doing what. Without having a clear reason for why you want to give up, you will easily give up on breaking your bad habit. My reason was when I moved to stay with my parents, they could not understand what those important messages were I was attending to all the time. They challenged the fact that I could stay without that. I took it as a challenge and worked in that direction to get over it.
Replace the reward:
 A message from WhatsApp gave  me a dopamine rush. I had to replace it with a healthier rush. I long for interesting conversations. The present way was toxic.  I had to look out for a healthier way to have them. I found Quora to be a suitable place to have that. So every time I felt the urge to text, I shared my knowledge with others on this platform.
Reduce slowly:
 Stopping it all of a sudden makes a person depressed because of with drawl symptoms. Instead reducing it step by step helps in getting over the addiction sustainable. I thought of stopping WhatsApp usage many times prior to this. When my monthly net pack on phone expired, I was not able to stay for even a few hours without it. But this time I did something different. I did not stop it completely. Instead I reduced it to data pack for 5 days a week. So when I am out on the weekdays I have net pack but if I am going out on a weekend I won’t. So it was about depriving myself for a few hours each week. After a month, I reduced it further down to four days a week. On 5th day, if I feel the urge to text, I switch on data for a few minutes once a day. As a next step, I cut it short to 3 days a week for 2 weeks. By then, I had already reached a stage of control.
The above mentioned methods are what worked for me. The bad habit which you want to break might be different. But you can still try the above steps. Reward yourself after you achieve each milestone. 


Happy breaking bad habit!

Beginners Guide: How to make the habit of reading books

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Was there a time when you have not heard about the importance of reading books? The answer is definitely a ‘No’. I don’t have to give you reasons to read books. Everyone knows that books are one of the key habits of highly successful people. But how did they make that habit? What did they read? Did reading made them successful or something more needs to be done?

Common excuses for not reading:


A) Books are expensive:
A lot of people do not want to spend money on a book which they are going to read for one time and keep it aside. You can always borrow books from the library or read them online.
        
B) Books are difficult to maintain:
“I buy a lot of books. But they get dusty easily. I don’t know how to maintain.” You can always hire someone who helps you maintain them or read about their maintenance.
C) Why books when I can watch:
When you watch, you are only watching what the director wants you to watch. When you read, it is your own screenplay and not what another person has played it for you. The hero of the book looks like the way you want. You need not adjust for something what others want you to see.
         
D) Books are tough to read:
“I come across so many difficult words while reading and can’t comprehend what is written.” Instead of looking at it with pessimism, take it as an opportunity to improve your vocabulary.
E) Language is complex:

“I have trouble understanding the language.” The language might be tough when it is very different from your native language. It is one of the great ways to learn a new language.
F) Books strain my eyes:

“My eyes start hurting after I read a few pages.” Does watching television not hurt your eyes?
G) Books are time consuming:

“My day is totally packed. How do you expect me to find time to read?” Do you find time for social networking sites like Facebook? Then you have definitely got time to read.
H) Books can’t be read beyond a page:

“Whenever I start a book, all I can drag till is one chapter”. This is totally fine. You must have chosen the wrong book or you have not followed the right steps to make it a habit.
I) Book reading speed:

“I am a slow reader”. Are you taking part in the fastest reading contest? You can read at your own pace.
J) Book content is difficult to remember:

“I don’t remember what I read”. No one is testing you on the content. Are you not eating food every day even though it just lasts for a while? Reading is also the same. It is a food for the brain. There is no compulsion to remember. But if you are really interested in remembering, keep making notes and revise them regularly.
K) Books have not changed my life: 

“My life had not changed even a little.” Your life does not change by reading a book. It changes by implementing what you have read. Don’t finish a self-help book overnight and wait for miracles to happen the next morning. Change is a gradual process. Read a chapter a day. Implement them. Become a person which was described in the chapter and them move to the next one.
L) Books are just a way to kill time and there are many ways to do it:

There are many ways to kill time. They might be productive or destructive. A wise person always chooses a productive way to a destructive way.

How to make it a habit?

Step 1: Start with your favourite genre

If you don’t have any favourite genre, read a few book summaries to see what you like better. Start reading a book in that genre.
        
Step 2: Start small

Don’t try to read the entire chapter on the first day. Read only one page each day in the first one week. Then increase it to two pages a day in the second week. Keep increasing the number of pages a day based on your comfort level.
Step 3: Trigger the action

Set a time each day when you are going to read it. If you can’t pull out time in your daily schedule, have a location trigger. You can open book and start reading when you are in a queue or waiting for a friend.
        
Step 4: Reward

Set a reward yourself after reading each page. Reward need not be materialistic. An appreciation for yourself that you have finished a page can also be a reward. You can have a chart where you put a tick mark for doing it today.

How to read in order to retain?


> Write notes while you read. If it is disturbing the flow of reading, read first and then reread it to make notes.

> Write action points for you based on pieces of advice mentioned in the book.

>Discussing the book with your friends and ask their opinion on it. You can   also ask what they would do in the imaginary situations.

>Connect whatever you are reading presently with what you read in the past.     Connections make neural paths stronger.

>Last but not least, implement them to retain the content forever


Happy Reading !

Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy People

Author: Thomas C Corley

Review


The author did not mention anything new which you would not have read in any other articles or books on self-help previously. He just tried to make the book interesting by writing case studies of an insurance salesman, a secretary, a car dealer and an accountant. He mentioned 10 habits of the rich, but he has not gone into details of how to make the habits work for you. Also, some of the habits are overlapping. If you are already aware of habit formation and the basics required to be successful in life, this book acts as a revision or checklist to see where you stand. Instead, if you are at the bottom of your life, where you need a few situations where you can relate yourself to the characters in that situation, then this book is for you. Don’t expect this book to change your life in just one reading. You might have to do further research on how to deal with the obstacles you face while practising these habits and also to learn how to make these habits in the first place.

Summary:

1. I will form good daily habits and follow them daily:

Successful people have more good habits and less bad habits. For every bad habit they have, they write down the opposite of that habit which makes it a good habit. If you are a binge eater, make a habit of eating mindfully.

2. I will set goals for each day, for each month, for each year and for the long term. I will focus on my goals each and every day:

Successful people don’t float in the air but pursue their goals diligently. They have daily to-do lists. They break down their monthly goals into tasks. They envision their long- term goals.

3. I will engage in self-improvement every day:


Successful people read about their industry. They set aside some time each day for their development.

4. I will devote part of each and every day in caring for my health:


Successful people are mindful about the food they eat and have an exercise regimen.

5.I will devote each and every day to forming lifelong relationships:

Successful people know the importance of networking. They return to phone calls immediately. They go out of their way to meet people, but they avoid toxic people.

6.I will live each and every day in a state of moderation:

Successful people live in moderation. They eat, drink and spend moderately. They don’t let emotions affect them too much.

7. I will accomplish my daily tasks each and every day. I will adopt a “do it now” mindset:


Successful people do not procrastinate as they are aware that it leads to poor quality of service.

8. I will engage in rich thinking every day:

Successful people have a well-balanced mind. They have complete control over their emotions. They spend time on positive affirmations.

9.I will save ten percent of my gross income every paycheck:

Successful people set aside some money for savings before paying any other bills.they monitor their retirement plans regularly.

10.I will control my thoughts and emotions each and every day:

Successful people have emotional mastery. They follow the policy of “think, evaluate and react” when faced a difficult situation.


Which of these rich habits do you have? Let me know in the comment section.
Happy making rich habits!