How to stop feeling guilty?

The other day I committed a grave mistake in office. No damage occurred but a lot of time went down the drain. I should have been a bit more careful and double checked the code.   The moment I realised that a mistake happened I felt guilty. I did not have a face to face […]

Family Traditions: Why they matter?

As soon as January comes, it was a bunch of excitement in my school days. On the 31st December night, my dad used to get three different types of potato chips. Then we used to play chits till clock stroke 12 and sleep only after calling all the relatives. During Pongal, we prepare a special […]

Why should you forgive?

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. I was angry with a friend. She insulted me. Her words were replaying in my head over and again. Whenever I had some free time, those words came up […]

Why is comparing yourself to others bad for you?

Ram and Shyam went to the same coaching center to prepare for GMAT. They discussed together and wrote the exam on the same day. Ram scored 740 while Shyam scored 670. Shyam has highly dissatisfied and went around telling people how Ram was lucky to get 740 even though both prepared together.   What does […]

What causes depression?

Depression is the product of your thoughts. Your thoughts trigger emotions. The emotions trigger physical discomfort. The discomfort triggers the unproductive behaviour. If you are depressed, you are stuck in this loop forever. The first step to overcome depression is to understand the faulty thought process which is the root cause of endless misery. Even […]

Letter to your future self

Letter to your future self

I came across a letter to your future self while reading Hyperbole and a half.   Dear 25 year old [note: not “Dear 25-year-old me” or “Dear 25-year-old self,” just “Dear 25 year old”],   Do you still like dogs? What is your favarite dog? Do you have a job tranning dogs? Is Murphy still […]

How to find your true self

Since my childhood, I have been intrigued by the question  “Who are you?”   I didn’t know what I am.   If I said  “I am X who works for Y and stays in Z”, does is it answer the question?   Am I the profession I do? Or just my name?   Or should […]

The actual cause of Loneliness

Loneliness is a very loosely used term.   If you say you are lonely, the advise you receive is Mingle more Be social Become attractive Keep yourself occupied Change places Go on a vacation Try a new hobby   The above list will help those who are temporarily lonely. But if you have been experiencing […]

What do you like about yourself?

  Yesterday, as a part of Secret Santa celebrations, my colleague was asked to boast about himself. All he said was what he liked about himself. We live in a society where talking what we like about ourselves comes under boasting.   I agree that it is not a good practise to talk about yourself […]

Why should you do a healing letter exercise?

“We are healed of a suffering only by expressing it to the full.” —Marcel Proust   Is there a tiny devil in your head which keeps speaking all the time? The tiny devil has only one duty. It harbours hate, jealousy and anger. It does not let them go and keeps on reminding you of the […]