{"id":1738,"date":"2022-07-20T13:52:24","date_gmt":"2022-07-20T13:52:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lensq.com\/?p=1738"},"modified":"2022-07-20T13:52:24","modified_gmt":"2022-07-20T13:52:24","slug":"experience-self-forgiveness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lensq.com\/index.php\/2022\/07\/20\/experience-self-forgiveness\/","title":{"rendered":"My experience with self forgiveness"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00a0“Don’t be so hard on yourself.”<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

It was the most common advice I often received. I ignored it thinking that, “If I stop being hard on myself, how will I ever achieve anything?<\/strong>“<\/span><\/p>\n

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Every time I pushed myself harder, I ended up failing. Not just in my career but also in my personal life. I put immense efforts with little to no appreciation. Every time I pushed myself in my personal life to please people, I ended up feeling more lonely and depressed.<\/span><\/p>\n

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As a result, there was more self loathing and more pressure with little to no self love, resulting in another break down.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Honestly, it wasn’t easy to come out of any of this. But I definitely decided enough was enough. I wanted to end the game of chasing perfection. But it was too late by the time I made that decision. All the resentments I held added on to my body as fat. Irrespective of how happy I am, my face still looked sad most of the time.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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I wanted to give life another chance and started to unburden myself – layer by layer. The first layer was about removing the mask of what I ought to be vs what I am. The next layer was about finding that compassion for the child within me on whom I was very hard all the time. Layer by layer, I began to unpeel it and was surprised by the results I saw after each layer. I learnt some key lessons that <\/span><\/p>\n

“The only person you ever need to forgive is yourself”<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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When I did that, I started receiving apologies from others. But it didn’t matter anymore. I noticed that my heart opened and there were a lot of things to process. I take them one by one and slowly make peace with them. Initially the 90% healing can be done. The rest of it is a life time process to keep unearthing, processing and integrating. You have to learn the right way to start it to keep the momentum going.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Today, I can tell you that I am okay with the mistakes I make. I am not hard on myself for a missed opportunity. I can become a self loving human within a few days of a deeply traumatic incident (previously my turn around time was a few years). I stopped taking things personally. If the other person has negative emotions towards me, it is about them and not about me. I can hold that space for my inner child to heal whenever it needs. I am at peace with the flow of Universe. All thanks to self-forgiveness that the nagging voice in my head has calmed down drastically.<\/span><\/p>\n

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If you would like to learn from me on how to find self forgiveness, below are more details about the workshop.<\/span><\/p>\n

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What is self-forgiveness?<\/span><\/h2>\n

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We are all humans. We are here to make mistakes and learn some lessons from it. But what we do instead is shut down a part of ourself after a mistake or over react to it for the rest of our life.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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When a lot of people say “I move on”, what they actually do is shut down. If they say, “I am taking action”, they are trying to overcompensate.<\/span><\/p>\n

In the workshop, you will learn what is the right way to deal with forgiveness so that you make peace with the incident in a healthy way.<\/span><\/p>\n

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What is the structure of the workshop?<\/span><\/h2>\n

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  1. Introduction<\/strong>: We will go deeper into the skeleton of self forgiveness – what, why, how and learn about how the exercises you will be doing for the rest of the month to achieve the same.<\/span><\/li>\n
  2. Meditation<\/strong>: Your body is more receptive to healing in a relaxed state than in an awake state. We will do body relaxation followed by inner child healing to achieve deep lasting results.<\/span><\/li>\n
  3. Conclusion<\/strong>: We will close the workshop with a doubt clearing session and experience sharing session and guidelines on how you can continue doing this for the rest of your life.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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    For timings and other details, you may contact here<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

    If you want to check out your current levels of self-compassion, check out here<\/a>.<\/p>\n

    Happy finding self-forgiveness!<\/span><\/p>\n

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