{"id":731,"date":"2018-01-27T21:40:14","date_gmt":"2018-01-27T16:10:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lensq.com\/?p=731"},"modified":"2018-01-27T21:40:14","modified_gmt":"2018-01-27T16:10:14","slug":"stop-feeling-guilty","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lensq.com\/index.php\/2018\/01\/27\/stop-feeling-guilty\/","title":{"rendered":"How to stop feeling guilty?"},"content":{"rendered":"

The other day I committed a grave mistake in office. No damage occurred but a lot of time went down the drain. I should have been a bit more careful and double checked the code.<\/span>
\n 
\nThe moment I realised that a mistake happened I felt guilty. I did not have a face to face the reality. But then feeling guilty won\u2019t solve the problem.<\/span>
\n <\/p>\n

Why do you feel guilty?<\/span><\/h6>\n

 
\nYou have certain expectations from yourself. When you don\u2019t meet those expectations you start feeling guilty. Others can also make you feel guilty that you did not live up to their expectations.<\/span>
\n <\/p>\n

How to stop feeling guilty?<\/span><\/h2>\n

 
\nWhen someone blames you or when you blame yourself, you will end up feeling low. Constant guilt might drive you into depression too. By feeling guilty you are not helping anyone.<\/span>
\n <\/p>\n

Follow this 4-step process when you feel guilty<\/span><\/h6>\n

 
\nStep 1: <\/b>
\n 
\nTell yourself that it is okay to make a mistake. No one is guilt free. You forgive yourself for the mistake.<\/span>
\n 
\n\u201c I made a mistake in hurry. I did my best I could then. I am a human, so my work is prone to errors. I forgive myself for this.\u201d<\/span>
\n 
\nStep 2:<\/b>
\n 
\nWhat value of yours was broken when it made you feel guilty? Is the value outdated? Or does it matter even now?<\/span>
\n 
\n\u201c I broke my value of rechecking. It is important no matter where and when.\u201d<\/span>
\n 
\nStep 3:<\/b>
\n 
\nFix the mistake and the harm done because of the broken value.<\/span>
\n 
\nStep 4:<\/b>
\n 
\nWhat can you do to let the value not be broken again?<\/span>
\n 
\n\u201c I tend to make a mistake when I am in hurry. From next time, I will spend more time and not rush things.\u201d<\/span>
\n 
\nYou could have hushed your guilt feeling without actually feeling it. But then it will haunt you wherever you go.<\/span>
\n 
\nInstead when you deal with it in the above process, you will be facing the guilt real time and making peace with it forever.<\/span>
\n 
\nWhich one do you think is better? How do you deal with your guilt?<\/span>
\n 
\nLet us know in the comments section.<\/span>
\n 
\nHappy being guilt free!<\/span>
\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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